Wishful thinking

What if someone was like “hey I like you just the way you are and you don’t have to change yourself in anyway or adapt to any other standard for me to want to be in your life.” Ridiculous, I know, but one can always dream.

2 thoughts on “Wishful thinking”

  1. Would that be!! … but you will need to find someone who does not need validation from social media and that is not going to be easy.

  2. But at this point I don’t think that kind of love exists. It always feels like there’s some degree maintenance that needs to be acknowledged and confronted for a relationship to work.

    Your family may knit pick your weight, too skinny or too fat, or perhaps they push you to improve in areas they feel your lacking. That behavior can be mimicked in your intimate relationships too because if the standard for homeostasis isn’t met between partners it isn’t able to thrive.

    A homeless person may have found love with a fellow street dweller but if either persons actions land them behind bars then a void is forcefully imposed on the relationship that may limit the longevity.

    Temper, virtue, ability to troubleshoot problems together, even aesthetic disposition and an infinite number of other variables weigh in to the individual judgement on if a relationship will succeed.

    You may tell me you love me for me but if your personal decisions literally put a distance between us with no certain return by date I at least know my presence doesn’t carry the same weight for me as it does you in your hierarchy of needed fulfillment.

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