Do you ever really get over an ex you were madly in love with? Does your heart really following you in moving on?
Sometimes I wonder if the man I love only can love me with part of his heart. He dated a girl for almost 3 years…wanted to marry her. She cheated and lied and he was left shattered. A year and a half or so after this break up is when we met. I heard from my friends that he was head over heels for me. We barely had one conversation but I was excited to hear he was so enthusiastic about getting to know me.
On our first date he tells me some really deep things, including the fact that he had this terrible breakup. He had dated other girls after her…but he didn’t tell me about them until later.
Now we’ve been together for two and a half years but it’s still something I worry about. I think he’s chosen not to love her anymore and he’s chosen to love me. I think we’re great for each other. Maybe it’s just insecurity but there has always been the concern in the back of my mind that I’m just the girl he’s settled for.
He told me that he’s going to reach out to his ex tomorrow to let her know he’s moved on, he’s happy and he forgives her for hurting him. He’s doing this as a healing process for himself, not because he thinks she will care. I’ve supported him because maybe it will help. But it does make me wonder if my gut feelings are true…there’s just something about her that he is crazy about…something about her that holds him captive.