I am so frustrated & confused with some of the letters/responses on this website.
Let me just say this – to all – IF you are posting letters on this site (or other similar websites for that matter) that are intended for your person AND you actually want them to get your message – then take the direct approach!
Especially, if you are unsure if they will ever come across it OR even realize that it is meant for them. Remember not everyone knows about this site, and others only go this site occasionally to read, respond, write their own letters. No one wants to waste their time weeding out the letters that may or may not be meant for them. Also, keep in mind that this site is slow at posting letters & responses – which means your letter/response will be delayed.
If you are able to get in contact with this person – then be direct and reach out to them in more direct and reliable ways (in-person/call/text/email/skype, etc.). Sending letters on this site (and other similar websites for that matter) With The Intent that YOU actually want that person to read/respond just leads to confusion, frustration & misunderstandings! Please stop the unhealthy passive-aggressive communication, and just find the courage to reach out to your person in a more direct way.
If you have NO other means to communicate with this person – then be direct about it: address it to them, include some kind of crystal clear detail that only the two of you would get or that is unique to your person/situation.
Oh, and if there is anyone on this site sending me letters AND actually wants me to read/respond – then take the direct approach! I am Done with this unhealthy form of communication. If you want to reach me – here it is – to avoid spam in my email you have to do some extra work – look me up on my college’s email directory (hint: it is the most northern CSU in our state).
Thanks for letting me vent and express my thoughts.
– Linda H. (or Linda or L.H.)