• Something to Consider

    by  • February 23, 2018 • * Safe for Work *, Advice • 4 Comments

    It’s easy to judge people on here, or online in general. Please be thoughtful in your comments because you are only getting a small part of the picture. People are expressing themselves, good and bad, because life includes both sides, and all people are a mixture of both. Some of them are hurting or have gone through things you can’t begin to understand. Others are happy, in love, sharing creativity… what do you get out of bringing them down?

    If you wrote a letter and received a condescending or condemning comment, don’t let it get to you. You’re an amazing person and your words matter.

    If you responded in an unhelpful way to someone, why are you even wasting your time reading these letters? You certainly have gone through things yourself, and there are people here who would be understanding towards you, some of the same ones you are dismissing.

    In life, everyone gets their turn. I hope that when it’s yours you are loved and supported.

    4 Responses to Something to Consider

    1. way to go!
      February 23, 2018 at 6:33 pm

      well said!

    2. Just a thought...
      February 24, 2018 at 11:51 am

      Happy and in love? Writing to each other on an anonymous site? Yeah, that doesn’t mean they’re cheating or deceiving someone that loves and trusts them. Yeah, most of us are here because we hurt. Many because we have been deceived or cheated on. So, what? We’re not allowed to vent here? If we see posts from people who are obviously fucking around on their partners, we’re not allowed an angry response? If you want all daisies and encouragement for these deceiving douschebags then maybe you’re just trying to justify your own discretions.

    3. Original writer
      February 28, 2018 at 9:19 am

      I can see your point. “People are expressing themselves, good and bad…” Of course anyone is free to have their own feelings and express them or vent or say they’re angry. Being anonymous has its pros and cons. Just trying to point out that we don’t always know everything. We have the choice to speak the truth respectfully (keeping in mind nobody is perfect) or we can condemn others and attack them as a person (as opposed to disagreeing with their actions), which in the end never helps them and isn’t that great for our own wellbeing either. Not trying to force anyone to be a certain way. Just expressing my opinion based on experience and compassion. Sometimes people need to get things out, but if you take it personally and lash out at someone you don’t know (or even do), I doubt they will take what you’re saying to heart. For me, venting with any sort of judgmental thought towards someone else has always made me feel worse about myself.

      • Just a Thought
        February 28, 2018 at 6:10 pm

        Well said, point taken.

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