This will be a new way of thinking perhaps, but please keep an open mind.
I have a theory that most women view all men the same: dogs, sex crazed maniacs, etc. No matter how a woman views a man, it almost always involves a level of “he will hurt me in some way” mentality. We women HOPE he doesn’t, but it is usually expected that he will at least flirt with other women or sometimrs something more serious. We are taught from birth that all men are the same. All are sex crazed dogs who only want that one thing. We want to be the one woman who he changes for. We yearn to be the one who he makes an honest man out of himself for. I think we all want to feel that special.
So ladies, we have two men in front of us. Think Dean Winchester vs Sam Winchester. (Supernatural fans?) Anyway, most women go for Dean. He is flirty and outgoing, a real go getter. He is cocky and confident. He is dangerous. This is the man that will always make you feel sexy and wanted and fulfill your edgy desires. But the truth is that there is no risk there. Any woman would go into that relationship expecting to get hurt, but hoping for the best and call it something like, “Just seeing how things go.”
Now Sam on the other hand is kind but tough, gentler, sweet. The brother type. The one who will always be there to be your shoulder to cry on. This man is always in your corner. He loved you and you know it. He will always be your friend. The truth is that he is the real risk. If HE hurts you, you will lose all faith in him, and in the male gender altogether. He couldn’t, would never hurt you. You are sure of this in your heart. But what if he did?
What if he did?
Why cant we have both?