I have been in a relationship for 15 years. I love my girl but I feel the relationship is spiraling downward. I have fallen for an older coworker over the last 3 years. We have been through so much and have become really close. I know what everyone is going to say because she’s a coworker lol. I’m not ready to leave my girlfriend because she has stuck by me through everything, even though I’m not satisfied. As for the older coworker, I have never told her my feelings or made a move(although I know she knows I love her), I know she feels something for me but like me, she isn’t ready to destroy her family and I’m not ready to hurt the person who has been there for me. I would do anything to know what it feels like to have a first kiss and just hold her. I have tried to bury these feelings but every time I look into her eyes I’m reminded how It feels to be in her presence. I’m kinda stuck, sometimes I feel like I’m doing the right thing by doing nothing but its so painful. At least I am only hurting myself, I don’t think any advice will help me, but getting my thoughts out already feels a little better. I hope everyone on this site finds what there heart is looking for, even if its not what’s best for them.