Has anyone ever wondered whether someone was good enough for them? Besides the obvious such as physical attraction? Of course! Physical Atteaction is very important beyond the comprehension of the naked eye and quite powerful to the unassuming observer. It has been proven when one measures another up physically, they are in effect and inately looking for signs of health and compatibility to a genetic level. No current test can obtain those kinds of results so even if you may fear your future husband or wife may not measure up in the money-making or level of academic achievements it is not an unsignificant trait to ignore. There are many things in life that can hinder ones ability to achieve whether starting out poor or with unsupportive parenting. Many overcome and some do not or cannot. If you second guess your choice and decide someone less attractive but with higher academic achievements may be a better choice intellectually then you just may have begun a grave mistake. That person could be harboring hidden genetic traits incompatible to yours that could lead to diseases and disabilities not present until you decide to have children. Our initial choices are not to be ignored or affected by what are outside influences of society.
I once dated a genius I fell head over heels. He came from an academic family and a better background than my own. I on the other hand could have been his opposite. Struggling as a single mom, creative interests in the arts, working low wage jobs and attending school as I could afford to timewise and financially. My family was poor and 1st immigrants from a civil war.
He decided we were not intellectually compatible. He made me cry however I persevered and decided to not give up to prove to myself and him that I was smart enough.
He told me he took an I Q test and provided his assumed score which was genius level.
Many years later I was urged to take one by my instructor. I scored 1-2 points higher than my ex told me his score had been. I was asked to join MENSA. Since it all seemed too ridiculously easy to me I have not ever taken it seriously. I assume it’s a ploy like many things out in our materialistic world to make you feel better than others when in reality you are not. I assumed it a fake test that gives you better scores than you may deserve. I thought this even though I also got the highest scores in all the schools I had attended since High School.
Despite achieving success, just having been rejected for my intellect at a vulnerable time for me, may have physically been a mistake not to mention how long-lasting and hurtful it was to me. He opted to marry a yogini, I became a Computer Scientist, then an owner of Arts and Crafts store that teaches others how to use their talents including programming and various art forms. I just hope no one out there rejects somebody over something like that and if you do, please don’t tell them! You may actually be wrong and hurt them forever. Maybe if I could have believed in myself more or had been supported better I could have achieved more than I have. Love each other, we have the power to heal each other and empower each other just as much as hurt each other.