• To set the record straight

    by  • September 5, 2017 • * Safe for Work *, To You • 18 Comments

    I didn’t disappear because of the feelings I saw you had for me, it was my own feelings I was struggling to decipher. I needed space, it was time to move on from this crazy soulmate fantasy. I’m back, as you know, and I’m beginning to realize, this is not something that we can just simply move on from; be it a crazy fantasy or something else entirely. I need you to understand, I don’t want to be with you, I don’t want to interfere with your current life, I would never do that; this is not a physical attraction I’m dealing with. I’ll take your friendship and just simply accept that from time to time, we will feel those occasional undercurrents. It is what it is…

    18 Responses to To set the record straight

    1. D-
      September 6, 2017 at 5:31 am

      Thank you, I really needed to understand what you were thinking all this time. I really thought I was crazy thinking you were feeling anything. If you ever want to talk about it, I would with the understanding it will only be between us. There is a physical aspect for me on top of the other feelings. I can’t help it, you have always been very attractive. But I can deal with it. I’m just extremely happy that I get to see you from time to time. I enjoy the undercurrents, even when they are title waves.


    2. Sol
      September 6, 2017 at 1:41 pm

      I think you took the words right out of my mouth. I am done with the soulmate fantasy as well, even if I was the one that triggered it. “I don’t want to interfere with your current life” pretty much sums up what I feel too, i mean ive tried on multiple times but backed out everytime thinking… Why interfere? We are happy now, right? Life is balanced for both of us, stable. I don’t know, Que sera sera.

    3. Wishful
      September 6, 2017 at 2:17 pm

      Except for the “I’m back” part, this could have been from her.

    4. A different D
      September 7, 2017 at 6:20 am

      I have come back to this letter so many times in the last 24 hours. The timing of it along with the contents…could it be? No. Not possible.

      But I can’t deny that it is the perfect response to mine that I wrote recently.

      If this were a true response, I would say thank you for being kind enough to accept my friendship. I do have a physical attraction to you, but you made it clear recently that you don’t. I keep wanting to ask you what it is you DO feel for me, but I am too afraid that you’ll laugh in my face or say something equally as hurtful.

      I really am sorry that I fell for you. And I am sorry that I push away any chance at an emotional bond with you, because I am afraid of the aftermath. I know that is what you are doing as well. I feel the pressure from the wall you’ve built. And I want you to come inside my wall. I have just lost the key to the gate.

    5. Hmm, confused.
      September 7, 2017 at 9:43 am

      “not a physical attraction”? Is there an attraction at all? I guess I ask because when I love, I feel the urge to show the person in a physical setting.
      But attraction isn’t love, either.

      So, dear author, if you would be so kind, please indulge us. Tell us what you DO feel for said person? You say you were on hiatus because you needed time to decipher your feelings? What did this self introspection reveal, if you don’t want to be with this person?

      I ask because, you mention a soulmate fantasy. Then you say that you don’t want to be with this person. Then you state there is no physical attraction. Then you mention undercurrents? Your person must be so confused of your communication with him/her is half as flip floppy as your writing to them.

      Perhaps speakimg in person would help clear their mind, and yours?

      • @ Hmm, confused.
        September 13, 2017 at 12:19 pm

        It never fails to be so very calming, soothing and strangely relaxing when reading the thoughts of a clear thinking, rational, emotionally healthy, astute, insightful, no-bs, smart person !!!

      • Me
        March 24, 2018 at 11:01 pm

        I have been so fucking confused for so fucking long…………….
        I want to revise my posting from 9-6-2017.

        I call bullshit, I know you have feelings for me.
        I play the friend card cause that’s what I think you want, but you act otherwise.
        We text and then you GHOST in the middle of the conversation, for no reason, for days or weeks.
        We make plans, you cancel about 50% of the time with only a couple hours notice.
        When we do see each other its usually real nice, but there is almost always a moment when our eyes lock and I feel your intense energy and see your body language but then you pull back.
        If you were a stranger, i’d say you were married and cheating, but I know your whole fucking family.

        This is our second chance (You know what I mean).
        I really think we would be so great together, world renowned great.
        But I also know myself, the current situation is hurting me. It is chipping away at my soul day by day, the same way it did the first time.
        As for my current life, my whole situation is changing right now. I have even been considered moving back to your area. But right now, I don’t have a good reason to.

        What I am saying is, the clock is ticking and one day soon the chance will be gone again….but this time my heart and soul will be crushed to powder and any future chances with anyone will be gone.


    6. abc
      September 8, 2017 at 7:50 am

      Such a great example of word salad.Chump Lady’s universal bullshit translator would have a field day with this one.

    7. Brighteyes
      September 8, 2017 at 3:33 pm

      And were you able to move on from this crazy soulmate fantasy?

    8. Selfish, much?
      September 11, 2017 at 5:02 pm

      Ugh, this is the typical back and forth from two people who will eventually cheat on their significant others. This is what builds up the excitement. Without a second thought to who they might hurt. So do you selves a favor, and end it now, or end it with your partners before it turns into a shit show. Oh, but where would be the fun in that? It’s all fun and games until somebody finds out.

      • To the rescue...
        September 14, 2017 at 2:16 pm

        It’s as if you’ve said “oh, I like your glass house! Here’s my stone collection!”
        @Author – you’re fine. But it’s not my “record” I’d like her to “set straight”, if you know what I mean.

        • Britney
          December 18, 2017 at 12:45 am

          You keep me laughing. Never fails.

        • Puhleeez
          March 23, 2018 at 10:26 pm

          You say that as if you assume that everyone cheats. So you can justify your actions, or whatever it is you’re trying to say here.. Guess what? Not everybody fucking cheats.

    9. OMG
      September 13, 2017 at 8:41 am

      Goodness Gracious! Just tell them how you feel already! They deserve to know either way. To me, this letter says, “I’m not freaked by your confession, and I needed to see how I felt. I do feel something, but I continue to refuse to give you the same respect, opportunity you gave me by confessing. Let’s just be friends.”

    10. EmptytpmE
      September 14, 2017 at 5:23 pm

      If this were for me i’d say keep it, I’m never one to stick around once rejected. I don’t want your friendship. Although we had our good times, they have come to a conclusion. I am busy going through how to get over someone who led you on. I”m at step 4 your cons. I’m hurt so it’s Goodbye

    11. wide awake
      September 15, 2017 at 1:15 am

      Yes. It is what it is and it was what it was and now it is nothing anymore.

    12. T
      December 18, 2017 at 3:59 pm

      Original author here… our current situation does not dictate a possibility for a relationship, we are friends. but wow even in the short time since this letter was written, the universe has spun things around even more and making us question what we both now know is mutually felt vs. our reality

    13. Britney
      December 20, 2017 at 9:09 pm

      Yeah that is kinda what your letter implied. I got you. I am stuck there myself. Some people make more of things than it really is. It’s pretty cool having that kind of connection to a person. In my case it started confusing as hell and took a very long time to understand. Trying to understand what kind of feeling is happening was hard. It is love but not romantic love. I wouldn’t change a thing. I much rather have this connection than a relationship any day. I’m pretty sure trying to explain it to someone I do romantically love will be even harder. But it will have to be accepted because I cannot change it. It just is.

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