• A digital romance

    by  • June 25, 2017 • * Safe for Work *, Dating • 1 Comment

    Dear Abullfrog,

    If you taught me anything, it was to stop trusting people on online dating websites. You made yourself into a dream I did not want to wake up from. Digitally, you were the whole package. You came from a good family, you go to church on Sundays, you have a career, your own home, and a dog named Toby. You made me laugh when we Skyped, and when we talked on the phone, you told me stories of your childhood spent on your grandparent’s farm. You told me my passion for cooking made me attractive, but I needed to learn to enjoy drinking coffee. You asked me about my days and often talked with me through the nights about life on the road, home-brewed beer, and the plans we had for our future. At one point you told me you loved me.

    I can understand why your wife married you, seven years before I came into the picture. When you want to be, you’re a really good guy. You just lived a double life. One, I was unknowingly being dragged into and helping to create. It was only through a mutual friend halfway across the country that I found out about her and the newborn daughter you welcomed into the world just a few days ago. I want to make it known that carrying the title of “the other woman” was never something I wanted to have. But it became permanently imprinted on my identity when you had the decency to lie to me about it all.

    You’ve already ghosted and blocked my number. One can only hope that you’re stepping up and becoming the father and husband your family needs you to be, and not that you’re hiding online, waiting for the next girl who’ll be naive enough to shower you with attention, like I once did. I’ve toyed with the ideas of sending ya’ll a congratulations card in the mail and calling your wife one day when you’re not home to explain everything, but as much pain as you put me in, for your sake, I’m not going to be messing around with any of that. I truly want you and your family to succeed.

    I hope you learn from your mistakes and stay off the internet for a little while. Live a better life. I sure will.


    One Response to A digital romance

    1. Once a cheater always a cheater
      June 26, 2017 at 2:56 pm

      His family can’t succeed when he spends so much time on people outside of it. You will not be his first or his last. Trying to protect the sick son of a bitch is not noble – it’s helping him. His wife is living a lie – her whole marriage and family and the way she sees herself and her world is a LIE and she doesn’t even know it. She is married to a piece of shit and she has no idea. Or she does if he has blocked you. He won’t live a better life . Anyone who can do this in the first place is a narcissist at the very least and has no moral compass or any ethics. People do not change their core person – his core person was rotten from the start – he can’t change and he won’t.

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