I came across something today that struck me. It was about how relationships with more quarrels tend to be stronger. It’s not the fighting that strengthens the relationship, it said. The article claimed that it was what happens afterward. The make up stage, where two people realize that their relationship is more important than their differences. Apparently that fact alone forces them into forgiveness and compassion. By this time I was sobbing uncontrollably and had to stop reading. It just made me realize that I haven’t made it to that stage in a long time, because we argue and then we have to get away from each other and eventually someone will call the other to say sorry. There is no making up or working it out, because every time, EVERY SINGLE TIME that I express what is bothering me or why I’m acting crazy, you get angry and fly off the handle. When we are trying to discuss an issue, you listen but you don’t seem to comprehend what I’m saying. So I begin to tune you out, because I feel unheard. We react to each other in frustration, instead of responding to each other’s concerns. Why? I don’t know. Maybe we’ve made it to a point where we don’t know how to communicate anymore? Maybe we’re so stressed and tired and agitated all the time that we have no energy left for treating each other right? Maybe we just need our own alone time to recharge? Maybe our time together has run its course? I have no idea how to fix this. We’ve tried and tried. And all I can be sure of is it isn’t good for the children. We either have to find our way out of this together or apart.