• abuse – be sensitive, please

    by  • February 10, 2017 • * Safe for Work *, Abuse • 3 Comments

    Please try to understand. It doesn’t help if you tell me that I should …

    Please try to help without pushing me into a conflicting situation.

    Thank you.

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    3 Responses to abuse – be sensitive, please

    1. Dark Angel
      February 11, 2017 at 12:35 pm

      Are you currently going through an abusive situation? If you are, I can only hope you get out and get out now. The one thing I do know , from experience is that it only gets worse and never gets better no matter how high the hope is..
      If that is the case, be strong and be safe.
      Dark Angel


    2. you know the answer
      February 11, 2017 at 5:45 pm

      The fact of the matter is that you SHOULD leave abusers. I stayed and stayed and stayed – hoping, hoping, hoping, reading, reading, reading. Making myself perfect, working on myself, changing myself. Do you want to know what my biggest regret is? Staying the extra TEN years after I realised that he was an abuser. Living in a tent is preferable to living in abuse. Having children in a tent is preferable to exposing them to someone who thinks you are the dirt on the bottom of his shoes and either ignores you or yells at you. I regret staying. I regret the mental breakdown that staying in that situation created. Whether you want to hear it or not the abuse will never stop until YOU remove yourself from it. Abusers don’t change. EVER. They morph and go underground – some become passive aggressive but they NEVER stop using manipulation as a means to control the narrative of the relationship. Read ‘wolves in sheeps clothing’, ‘why does he do that?’ and the ‘verbally abusive relationship’….. Three books that helped me break free – not my work is taken up trying to forgive myself for staying and wasting so much of my young years with someone who was never going to appreciate them. He got my best years and I work daily trying to forgive myself for letting him. Leave. Money is not that big of a deal. Reach out to people, ask for help. You will be surprised how many people are just waiting to help you.


    3. Justin
      February 11, 2017 at 10:45 pm

      I won’t try to push you anymore. I know I can be overbearing but I’ll stop. You mean a lot to me.



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