• To a “friend”

    by  • January 12, 2017 • * Safe for Work *, Uncategorized • 2 Comments

    Dear friend,

    I hope you don’t mind me calling you “friend”, its just that I do not know who you are or where you’re from or anything about you really. I’m calling you “friend” because as you’re reading this, I’m considering you my friend. Why? I believe it makes sense to call anyone who listens as a friend, and since you are reading this you are therefore, listening to me friend. Let’s skip the greetings, we all know how those go. Example:

    Friend: Hi
    Me: Hi
    Friend: I haven’t seen you in so long! How are you?

    This is where the letter starts.

    Well, I’m not going to lie, I’ve been better. Frustrations stack over frustrations, frustrations from work, frustrations from life, frustrations from myself. Frustrations ranging from the customers who can’t seem to understand what I am saying despite repeating it for the 5th time to the unfairness of life where I am stuck doing work that does not originally belong to me but forced onto me by a lazy someone.

    Then from here, it gets deeper.

    Frustrated at myself for what I lack and what I am incapable to do.
    How I am unable to do a cat-eye despite practicing for over 2 years, how I cannot even do simplest eye-shadow techniques, how my skin is too sensitive for foundation, how my hair seems to just want to fall off my head, and how I am somehow incapable to lose weight despite eating much less than the average person and exercise 4 times a week. Friend, I am just utterly frustrated. I find that I am always lacking and am always incapable and somehow despite trying my best to improve, I simply cannot.

    But as we are not that close of friends, I will not say those things. Instead I will say

    Me: I’m doing fine, thank you for asking! How are you?

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    2 Responses to To a “friend”

    1. Heartshards
      January 13, 2017 at 12:16 am

      Me too Baby girl. Me too.


    2. Anonymous
      January 13, 2017 at 12:18 am

      Alright. I suppose I’ll call you friend as well. Those things that bother you. They will pass. This may sound counter intuitive, but please hear me out. Don’t focus on the frustrations too much, see them as something positive. Example: “I feel so frustrated with myself.” Change that too “I feel frustrated with myself lately, but I know that I’m doing the best that I can right now given the current circumstances.” Or you can see the frustrations as areas that need improvement to better you life. If the frustrations are getting tko much. Then treat yourself. It is very important, crucial in fact. That you take time to relax, to make yourself feel good and more importantly: Take care of yourself. If your tired. Sleep more. Exercise if you need to. In order to help give you a boost in energy. Stress causes illness and it is one of the major reasons people can’t lose weight, get sick and even end up with heart disease. Try looking at your “imperfections” as perfections. You are perfectly imperfect. But I think from what you have written. The real reason for your frustrations is as you stated “I find that I am always lacking and am always incapable and somehow despite trying my best to improve, I simply cannot.” Is because your being way too hard on yourself. Yeah I know I’m just an anonymous commenter. But I speak from experience. Is was very similar. Everything I did was not “good enough.” It wasn’t until recently that I accepted that I am “good enough.” By learning to forgive and love myself. That I was finally able to see that I am good enough. That yes, I make mistakes and maybe some things are not the way I want them to be. But that’s OK. I’m not perfect. Noyone is. It is a shame that in our society we are not taught about the importance of self love. Anyways, I hope that this helps. I wish the best for you. These are all just suggestions by the way. I’m NOT saying that you HAVE to do any of this of course. Afterall only YOU can change your life. And chose where your life will take you. Namaste



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