You can believe whatever you like about me, but at some point in your life if u ever want true intimacy you will have to realise this simple fact of human nature. Hurt people hurt people. Your hurt is reactive to my actions combined with your own experiential associations learned over your lifetime. Same with me. It’s a fact of human nature recognised by the general consensus of sociology as well as it is psychology. Things that hurt you may not hurt me and vice versa, you can’t reasonable pretend to know what hurts me as much as I can’t reasonable pretend to know what hurts you. Nor can we each assume the degree to which either of our actions could, would or should hurt another. But hurt people hurt the other.
Hurt people hurt people! Its why humans all over the world look towards and praise figures like Ghandi and the Dalai Lhama for having risen above this fundamental flaw in human nature. I’m not Ghandi and neither are you. I hurt you because I was hurting, whether you like it or not you hurt me because you were hurting, and somewhere along the the line long long ago one of us hurt the other and never addressed it, it’s like a ball we have tossed back and forth for years, and the ball just kept getting bigger. As far as I can see everything between us is based on two hurt people who have hurt each other in reaction to their own hurt.
AND If you fall susceptible to the widespread capitalist epidemic that humans must behave in accordance to a strict set of rules, else they are faulty, you are a fool who’s every human reaction has been nothing deeper than the pleasure that inanimate objects can afford. I’m a human being John, so are you. It’s all very well and good to excuse the complexity of this away with calling me a narcissist but in all sincerity what if I’m not?