• My findings.

    by  • November 19, 2016 • * Safe for Work *, To Everybody • 2 Comments

    I’ve been using this website for three weeks now. I posted the following letters: where, which, You remind me of her., Yes., Woke up today., Degenerate states of matter, Primordial things, and To the author of Electroshock therapy (and now My findings.) I’m a scientist, so I’ve done a little impromptu analysis of the demographics and communication styles of this website’s participants. Here are some things that I’ve decided are note-worthy:

    1) Most of you are women with more lesbians in the mix than the usual populations (myself included).

    2) The majority of letters are written to exes who have otherwise disappeared from your lives. (This is not the case for me but emotional affairs, which categorizes my experience, also prevail herein.)

    3) This is a website for writers. Not all writers are necessarily good at their craft but it’s safe to say that if your intended recipient is not a writer, they are unlikely to show up here.

    4) Because we’re all trying to passively communicate with a person who is not otherwise long for this type of communication in real life, we read the letters of other people oftentimes creating meaning where there is none.

    I’ll admit that by some happenstance of reading just the right thing at just the right time, unique situational specifics included, I’ve believed for a few updates that my person was on here. Be careful if you are intelligent and use your voice well. We tend to fall in love (or remain in love) with people we want to believe have those things going for them, so your letters will garner a lot of response. Don’t forget that your emotions are common and people will react if they feel the same way. If you want to draw somebody out of the woodwork you must be specific and meaningful and powerful in what you write. Some of you do this by invoking real names and places and dates. I do it by including tidbits of conversations I’ve had with my person here and there. However, this is still a place to express pent-up feelings, so those tend to be the dominant subjects when describing my own experiences.

    Anyway, it’s been lovely to read your letters and share those ideas that have nowhere else to go, but after a few more rounds of commentary I think I will bring my usage of this website to a close. Now that I have barfed my emotions all over the inter-webs it’s time to return to the real world wherein I’m still pretty sure that my person is flirting with me and I don’t know what to do about that since we’re both married. Oh well. You can’t fault love as a concept when things don’t work out favorably. I’m not well-versed in my Biblicals but I’ll mention here that my favorite quote is 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (I did not copy and paste this because I needed to feel myself type it out fully.)

    So, thanks everyone! I hope that life will offer you everything you’ve ever wanted in the months and years to come.

    To admin: what’s up with the same ten letters appearing in “Today’s Most Read” all the time? Seriously?

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    2 Responses to My findings.

    1. Divergent
      November 19, 2016 at 7:13 pm

      A scientist hey? I’m more of a mathematician…so do you know what I find odd? : Numbers that aren’t divisible by two!

      But in all seriousness…don’t worry, to come to the conclusion that your person really isn’t here – in 3 weeks is probably a record for this site. So congrats to you and your convergent thinking.

      I’ve been here a while and I’ve lost count of the number of people that find this site and are immediately hooked, believing ‘their person’ is here, doing exactly the same routine that you’ve just done.

      There is always someone with similar emotions and a familiar story that latches on to ‘new blood’ and the roller coaster ride begins.

      But strip it down, look at it logically, what is the probability, right?

      And worse still, how egotistical are you being, thinking that you are ‘that’ Person that found ‘your’ person here, I get it though, what a great story (love or friendship) would it be?!

      It is a great place to come and vent emotions and deal with feelings but definitely those feelings and words, just like the ones you hear in a popular love song…are universally relatable.

      All I can offer as a long time visitor if this site is; Don’t get so caught up in this site use it more to write out your feelings than look for someone it’s anonymous for a reason!

      My theory is if someone wants to be found here, they will, the thrill of getting caught is too hard for most of us to resist not to ‘accidentally ‘ slip up and reveal something. So if you are revealing things that only they would know and they WANT to be found a ‘accidental’ slip will come sooner than later. It’s human nature.

      Best as you say, to take notice of what’s happening in the real world you can learn a lot more there…from what is or isn’t missing.

      As for the most read, I think you will find they are linked and shared to other sites such as Tumblr and get hits from there.


    2. author
      November 20, 2016 at 11:22 pm

      Hahahahahaha! Odd. Indeed. Thank you for your kind words. I like this website. It actually is a joy to be reminded that the world is filled with people who are struggling with the same non-expression that invades my existence these days. Perhaps it is best to remember that these things will eventually pass. In the meantime, places like this are therapeutic.

      Good catch on the today’s most read part. I hadn’t considered this.



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