This evening I caught myself doing something that I do a lot when someone or something that could be important is on my mind. I guess it would be classified as fantasizing or daydreaming.
I think about possible scenarios which I could find myself in with someone, or doing something and I get so into it that I can pretty much envision it as well as feel the way I would likely feel in the situation. It’s never anything perverted, though occasionally it involves being in a bad situation where I always find myself doing something realistically heroic.
It seems to happen the most when there’s a woman I like. It usually involves me revealing that I have interest in and feeling for her. I’ll add that the dialogue always seems to be a little or a lot more dramatic than it would be in a real life situation.
What concerns me is that I tend to do this a lot through the day when it involves me liking someone. I find myself zoning out at work, being disengaged from people who I have to deal with on a regular basis, and it effects the amount of sleep I get. It’s probably not hard for anyone who reads this to realize that I’m a pretty lonely guy.
I know that any (or at least most) feedback I get on this is purely opinion, but I’d like to know if others have experienced, or are experiencing this. And I’d like to know how it could be dealt with outside of seeking therapy, because my schedule is too hectic for me to enter into counseling. I work three jobs and am a parent.
Thanks in advance