• I get jealous…

    by  • September 8, 2015 • To You • 5 Comments

    when guys like your pictures on Instagram.

    Especially when my ‘friend’ who you texted after you blocked me likes your pictures.

    If something was going on between the two of you romantically, I’d be absolutely devastated and heartbroken. To be honest, I’m very confused why you texted my ‘friend’ that I’m ‘creepy’ or ‘weird’. Are you interested in him or did you message him that because you want to communicate with me through him? I really hope it’s the latter and you’re not interested in him romantically. I’ve known that ‘friend’ almost as long as I’ve known you and at one point we were very-close friends. If he were interested in you and you him…then…all my respect for him would be gone.

    I hate that he can like your pictures and posts on social media and I can’t. I hate that he’ll be able to wish you a happy birthday but I can’t because you blocked me.

    Honestly, my hope is kind-of fading that we’ll be together in the future, only kind of because I still have a lot of hope. I recently texted my ‘friend’ who you messaged about me ( and I’m sure you guys were talking about me in some way) and he said he couldn’t get ‘tied in’ this situation. I asked him if when you texted him, if it was the same number you’ve had in the past and he didn’t reply..

    You told me you got your number changed and your sister has your old number. I’m pretty sure that was a lie. Now, my ‘friend’ is trying to cover up your lie for you and I’m not even sure if he’s my friend anymore, or if he ever was.

    Honestly, I am so fucking pissed at this whole situation. But, I’m not giving up.
    I will do absolutely anything to be with you. I’m going to find a way to make you my girl and to make you my woman. I definitely think it’s possible that you love me and you want to be in a serious relationship with me, and that’s exactly what I want.

    I’ll always love you and you mean the world to me. Please, if you love me then be loyal to me. I’m already completely loyal to you and I’m ready for the next-step.
    I will always love you and trust you; I need you to trust me too.

    I’ll always love you.

    5 Responses to I get jealous…

    1. Limerence
      September 8, 2015 at 2:22 pm

      Defined as “a state of mind resulting from romantic attraction, characterized by feelings of euphoria, the desire to have one’s feelings reciprocated.”

      I think its something alot more people can identify with than they are willing to admit, especially here. I don’t know you author, or your situation, but theres a number of things you said that stuck out to me. Your person tells other people that you are ‘creepy’ or weird’. She has blocked you on social media. She changed her number, ostensibly also with the purpose that you cannot contact her. Your friend feels obliged to protect her from you. You say that you think its “definitely…possible that you love me and you want to be in serious relationship with me…” but at least to me it seems like all evidence is to the exact opposite. That she wants nothing to do with you, that in all likelihood, you scare her.

      Now theres nothing wrong with being hopeful, but you have to be realistic too. No matter how hard you try, you can never ‘make’ someone fall in love with you. Thats a choice both sides have to make on their own. And you have to accept the other person’s choice, even if it is “No”. You seem to be a nice person, with alot of love to give. Can you even imagine how good it would feel for you to be able to give that love to someone who actually cared about you too? Who didn’t treat you the way your person does? Because (the insinuation in your letter that you might have been stalking this girl for awhile aside) Im inclined to believe you deserve better. There are so many beautiful lonely young women out there, that are waiting for a guy like you who is kind and loyal. But honestly, they are not going to come find you, and also Im sorry, but you need to face facts and accept that your person is not one of them.

      Best of luck author, and remember sometimes it helps to be able to talk to someone about all this. Like a real person.

    2. Author @Limerence
      September 9, 2015 at 2:01 am

      How the fuck are you going to tell me that she doesn’t love me?

      You don’t know the situation.

      I never stalk her. I don’t even know that much about her. I kept up with her social media but that was about it. Yes, I kind of cyber-stalk her but it’s nothing creepy. I AM IN LOVE. Also, she’s tweeted at me in the past, she’s texted me in the past without me giving her my number, she sub-tweets about me and she does a lot of things that make me pretty certain that she loves me. I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if she loved me. I honestly DO think she loves me.

      I am very realistic.

      I know you probably didn’t mean to get me worked-up but you did.

      I do think she loves me and I still have a lot of hope. Even if she doesn’t love me, I still love her.

      I don’t want to be with any other girl in the world.


      Thanks for your comment.

    3. a random opinion
      September 9, 2015 at 8:59 pm

      1. I have heard of this limerence concept before. However, I subscribe to the belief that limerence is just wild, passionate love that happens to be unrequited. It is not a distinct emotion. If both parties felt the same way, people would call it ‘true love’ instead of ‘limerence’. Imagine all those love-at-first-sight stories that ended up working out. What do they say about that? No one ever calls it ‘limerence-at-first-sight-that-developed-into-love’. Can anyone really truly define what love is, and how people should express love, and under what circumstances you are allowed to love?

      2. ‘Now theres nothing wrong with being hopeful, but you have to be realistic too. No matter how hard you try, you can never ‘make’ someone fall in love with you. Thats a choice both sides have to make on their own. And you have to accept the other person’s choice, even if it is “No”.’

      This is the cold, hard truth; and it hurts like hell. But someone had to say it. It takes awhile to sink in and accept. There are certain types of love that feel like death when unrequited. You undergo the stages of acceptance, one of which is ‘denial’. I don’t truly know the situation of anyone here, but I think it was beneficial for a number of us to have read what you had to say.

    4. Author
      September 10, 2015 at 1:19 am

      She has a boyfriend, so even if she loved me the she wouldn’t tell me right now. I honestly think she loves me. I have a lot of hope. You guys don’t understand the situation. I’m not in denial. I want to marry her in the future. I know she cares about me.

      I left out a lot of stuff about this situation and it’s really complicated. I’ll find out how she really feels about me soon, in person.


    5. Have you considered?
      September 12, 2015 at 1:28 am

      Maybe she’s a lesbian? They are most common to take the form of a succubus.

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