For all who seek,
Love left unanswered is an amazingly destructive force that acts like a cancer, devouring from within. What-ever the circumstances: he or she is married or blind to your desire or see’s you as a friend or your married or haven’t wanted or been able to extinguish a torch lit eons ago. The reasons or complexities involved truly don’t matter, sounds cruel and impossible to believe but it is the reality. Does the answer come to a few? Of course it is a possibility, but one that comes with long odds and almost always a huge cost. I know the theme will resonate with those entangled in this web but the overwhelming outcome will be fought tooth and nail. How long will you wait and what price is it worth? Dreams and fantasies are usually free of cost. They may sidetrack your heart and mind for a short while but like a morning mist they float away or burn off with the light of day. The torch is not so forgiving. It influences you in ways you can’t imagine, thoughts,deeds, and decisions that can alter so many lives. The end result is usually a lonely soul who has wasted so much of their time and passion on a ghost that there is little left to root and grow elsewhere. Please don’t see this passage as a condemnation of longing or love, that is the farthest thought from my mind. I love the very thought of love and I have the scars to prove it. No, this is not about trying to throw water on the flame, it is about controlling its fuel source and giving it its proper place and perspective. Do not end up despising your flame because they will not respond as you see fitting, do some introspective thinking and place the unattainable on a high shelf in your heart. It can exist, it cannot block your view. So please know I have felt the warmth of that flame but have also suffered the burn from it. You will never fully know the reasons why it does not love you as you love it but must understand, for your happiness and sanity, that it is living its own existence light years from yours. If you have shared intimacy with your fire you must know that this was your decision and comes with no promise or future. If it was all you hoped it would be than consider yourself lucky to have had a moment in time. As hard as it is to digest, that moment is more than most have. Make the flame a candle, place the candle high up in that special place and just glance at the flickering flame from time to time. It will grow dimmer as your visits lessen.