• Is she cheating on me?

    by  • September 6, 2014 • Advice • 3 Comments

    My girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. She’s a great girlfriend, everything I could ever want. When we first started dating I saw some guys name in her phone because she had it beside me and she told me “Oh just so you know if you ever see his name come up on my phone don’t worry, he’s my friend I’ve known him since high school and he’s engaged, I just buy pot off him sometimes”. I didn’t think that was a problem because at that time I had no suspicions about her at all. This conversation happened about 8 months ago. However, lately her phone has been going off a lot and she always puts it face down and won’t answer it when I’m there. When she finally goes to check and I ask who that was she says it’s one of her friends. She’ll always say a girl’s name. It doesn’t make sense to me that her friends would call her 7 times in one hour. The other day she was over at my house and her phone kept vibrating on the night stand and she didn’t touch it. When I asked her aren’t you going to get that? she said “No I don’t care who that is, it’s not important”. After it went off again about 10 minutes later, she grabbed it looked at it for literally 5 seconds and angrily turned it off and put it down and said “fucking people”. She then started asking me what were doing next week, as in making plans but I could tell she was agitated. I know she loves me but is she cheating on me?

    3 Responses to Is she cheating on me?

    1. Britney
      September 6, 2014 at 1:36 am

      There is no way to know that answer because we dont know her or you but my first thought was this…

      Your relationship is broken already. I dont believe because she openly tells you about her friends that it means when they blow up her cell and she is mad it means she cheated or even is cheating.

      My waving flag here is an insecurity issue. Followed by a possession issue. Your girl talking or not to anybody beside you should not make you instantly uneasy. There is a problem with trust.

      Address your concern openly to her and find your common ground or else you will not last much longer.

      Only you and her have answers and can build or break your relationship. Best wishes. I hope its just a kink and can be worked out.

    2. sadly
      September 6, 2014 at 6:44 am

      Yes…I’ve been there, if not physically then at least emotionally.

    3. K
      September 6, 2014 at 2:20 pm

      I can’t say for sure she is cheating on you but she is definitely hiding something from you. When her phone goes off and she tells you it’s her friend… you would have to be REALLY naive to believe that. Trust me, I was in a very similar situation and I was getting cheated on every week and had no clue for months. My ex’s phone would go off a lot too and he would never ever answer it in front of me either. I would confront her or try to gather some facts before you confront her but prepare yourself for heartbreak.

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