• Unsolicited Advice

    by  • May 18, 2014 • * Safe for Work *, Advice • 5 Comments

    If someone disappears on you and hurts you, don’t give them an opportunity to come back. As nice as it is to hear them apologize in that moment, it can set you back. Most good people don’t disappear out of selflessness. There is something in it for them. If given the opportunity, the one who disappeared will think they can do it again. Who’s fault is it then if you allowed it to happen?

    Same thing if you have to go no contact in order to heal and move on. This usually comes after closure of some kind between the two parties involved. If things have gotten so bad that you need to go no contact, keep NO CONTACT. One little slip and you can be back at square one feeling upset again.

    Just my two cents.

    5 Responses to Unsolicited Advice

    1. CMA
      May 18, 2014 at 10:59 pm

      Thank you for your beautiful advice =) no contact indeed it is.. and will always be..

    2. wow
      May 20, 2014 at 5:26 am

      What an advice.

      CMA, I learned to be careful with words like “always” and “never”.

    3. Busted!!!
      May 20, 2014 at 7:33 am

      I’m doing this. Your post made me realize it. I dropped them and now I need them for an opportunity that has arisen. Why them? Because they got the skills and I think I could trust them (“I got the skills to pay the bills…” Beastie Boys). You are right… I am selfish and a scoundrel. But they would benefit big time. But I am being insincere aren’t I? I am just an awful person. Thanks for the insight, author.

    4. BUSTED!!!
      May 20, 2014 at 2:38 pm

      I’m not being sarcastic, author. You sincerely made me question my true intentions and I’m grateful. Thanks.

    5. CMA
      May 20, 2014 at 3:29 pm


      Yeah.. that two words are the deadliest ^^.. yet, for my case.. I don’t think I want to change that.. I just don’t want to go through that suffocating moment again.. nope.. I’m done.. but thanks anyway for reminding me =) I really appreciate that..

      Have a super blast day ?(^?^)?

    Leave a Reply