Well, yes it does, Craig!
Why won’t my Ex narcissist girlfriend give me closure?
Because giving CLOSURE is tantamount to giving up CONTROL.
CLOSURE involves wrapping things up in a nice little bow
and agreeing that it’s OVER as a “couple” as “two people”
who each have needs to wrap up the last piece of
“coupledom” they shared: their break up.
This shows how ONE SIDED the narcissist is towards the
relationship ENTIRELY. The narcissist thinks that since
THEY’RE FINE with discarding you and acting as if you never
existed, that certainly YOU’d have no problem with it,
because, well…YOU DON’T EXIST.
When a narcissist is done using you, especially if you made
a lot of trouble for them, you know, by standing up for
your rights, or sharing your feelings, or God Forbid,
confronting them or exposing their secret. Well you’ve done
the UNTHINKABLE! No, it doesnt compare to the abuse done to
you, or the smear campaigning or destroying your heart and
life – but in their minds, they did none of that! You are
the sole perpetrator – how DARE you think YOU DESERVE
It’s a sad truth, that we can expect NOTHING from a person
who PRETENDS TO LOVE us, gets us to put ourselves in a
position to give them our true love, all the while tricking
us, setting us up and then stabbing us in the back with a
smile on their face.
But it’s the truth nonetheless. We can expect NOTHING from
a narcissist. No decency. No understanding. No true
apology. No true amends. and Ultimately NO CLOSURE.
This relationship requires that we gain our own closure. We
give ourselves the answers and know that if a narcissist
wanted to speak up to involve themselves in the ending,
they would have already.
But part of our gaining closure is
gaining knowledge about the disorder, which tells us
unequivocally that NARCISSISTS WON’T ALLOW CLOSURE – they
won’t give up that CONTROL. If a narcissist were healthy
enough to provide some sort of “joint” closure, then we
probably wouldn’t be leaving the relationship in the first