• being in love

    by  • March 22, 2014 • * Safe for Work *, Love - Pure and Simple • 5 Comments

    When you love your best friend more than a best friend how the hell do you stop, how do you cope? When you hear your best friend tell you they love someone else, you have to pretend to be happy about that, when all you really want is for them to love you.. but you are happy that they are happy but you want them to be happy with you but it will never happen.

    I find it really hard to cope with the fact I’m in love with my best friend I have been for years but it’s got tougher and the pain that it has caused me along the way I haven’t got over. I have tried to put my feelings to the back of my head to tell myself it can’t happen to tell my stupid heart that it isn’t worth it because it would never happen but it’s no use, I can’t control my heart I’ve tried. So how do I learn to cope with the fact that the person I love will never love me like that, I have coped with it to an extent but I can’t get the thought of my best friend out of my head they are there all the time I know sometimes when you can’t have something it makes u want it more, maybe that is the case as well. It drove me crazy at one point I had to get control of myself and I did to an extent but it’s not fully gone It hurts it’s confusing its a total headfuck especially when you can’t walk away from a friendship being in love with a best friend is so tough. Sometimes I wish I wasn’t in love.

    5 Responses to being in love

    1. britney
      March 22, 2014 at 7:51 pm

      Never wish that.

      Being fully in love with a person is a beautiful thing.

      Maybe it is one way…yeah that hurts….never regret it….you are blessed to have found a person your heart let in. Not all love has to be returned.

      You may not understand right now but there is a lesson you will learn from this…..it will make you a better person….so dry your tears….dont hate your heart….and remember that you are a strong person open to learning.

      Best wishes

    2. Gemini
      March 22, 2014 at 8:48 pm

      I could never phrase it as well as someone else has already: “I feel like I’m going to die, if I can’t be with you and I can’t be with you; so, I’m going to die and I don’t care, ’cause I was brought into existence to know you and that’s enough. The idea that you would want me back? It’s like greedy.” – Louis C.K.

      Sometimes, love just doesn’t happen and that’s a reality we must deal with, each in our own way[s].

    3. Oscar
      March 23, 2014 at 11:41 pm

      “The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it. Resist it, and your soul grows sick with longing for the things it has forbidden to itself.”

    4. same here
      March 24, 2014 at 8:40 am

      Studies showed that brain chemical dopamine is at higher levels in people in love.

      Dopamine is key to people’s experiences of pleasure and pain – linked to desire, addiction, euphoria – a rush may cause such acute feelings of reward that it makes love hard to give up.

      Serotonin levels may fall in the same way to those seen in people with OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE DISORDER, explaining why love makes people feel ANXIOUS and jittery.

      The love chemical that people are most familiar with is adrenaline. This hormone is the reason why our heart races, palms sweat and mouth goes dry, when we see the person we like.

      The same hormone is also released when we are TERRIFIED.

    5. author
      March 24, 2014 at 4:34 pm

      It has grown sick but it hasn’t helped one bit the yearning is stronger than ever the feelings I have for this person are more than my brain and heart can take sometimes..nothing I do changes it, I don’t know if I want it to change but it’s just… Tough

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