• Why do I still love him?

    by  • March 17, 2014 • * Safe for Work *, Advice • 5 Comments

    How is it possible to love someone who hurt you so badly? I was on and off with my ex boyfriend for 2 years but known him for about 4. I wouldn’t say I’m still in love with him but I still think of him a lot and wish him the best although he treated me like absolute shit for almost our entire short lived relationship. He use to lead me on, disappear and reappear into my life, used me, stole from me and then abandoned me like it was nothing.
    My other ex boyfriend, my most recent one also hurt me a lot when I found out he was cheating on me but he treated me much better while we were together, like it felt like a real relationship. With the guy I’m nuts about, it never did. He always left me wanting more. But just based on how I was treated, you’d think I would be heartbroken over the second guy but I’m not. I don’t even care for some reason. I actually wish bad upon him.

    Why do I still care and think about my ex? I feel like I’m obsessed, not in the sense that I stalk him or anything just like I’m always trying to find someone to replace him, replace what he meant to me.
    Does this make sense to anyone? Am I just weird?

    5 Responses to Why do I still love him?

    1. You're not weird
      March 17, 2014 at 3:21 pm

      You had your heart broken…and it sucks and it takes what feels like light years to get over. I think that most of us here can relate with what you are feeling.

      You can’t replace him. You just have to heal and completely be open to loving someone like that again. It takes time.

    2. Susan T.
      March 17, 2014 at 3:53 pm

      If you’re anything like me, you care because you can’t believe you trusted someone who would betray you. You still care and think about your ex because when you truly love someone, you never stop loving them, even after they cheat on you. I know it sounds like loads of bullshit, but you’ll always have love for your ex even if you’re no longer in love. What can you do? Nothing, just keep being yourself. You’re probably just a very loving person who doesn’t know how much you’re truly worth yet. Some say the point of life is the pursuit of happiness, and it’s not a bad goal. There’s nothing wrong with being in constant search of a companion, but you should be happy with yourself first, love yourself, make yourself whole. All the romantic shit tells us that mates “complete” each other and they’re broken without one another. Complete bullshit. When you or he finally becomes whole, there’s no need for the other anymore. Then whoever you end up with, a whole man, not just a male with self esteem issues (those tend to cheat on you), will add to your life. Real love means you don’t need them to be whole and you want them there purely because you enjoy their company and you would be fine on your own. I know it’s all jumbled, but hope some of that made sense.

    3. Jabbed
      March 17, 2014 at 9:15 pm

      It’s called fucking love… Fucking hard love

    4. Deepak Chopra
      March 17, 2014 at 11:45 pm

      Love takes many forms – it is up to you to choose which you wish to express.

    5. @Jabbed
      March 18, 2014 at 1:53 am

      we are on the same track

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