• Standing By

    by  • March 10, 2014 • * Safe for Work *, To You • 5 Comments

    Dear You:

    This is probably the most difficult thing I have ever had to do. Through all of our ups and downs, things have been difficult before but things have also been amazing and they are amazing right now but we have never been in quite this position before.

    We are friends now, best friends. That’s all we can ever be now and I have accepted that. You are trying to navigate through your newly discovered life and I support you in that. I support you in anything and everything that you do in this life because after all this time, my love for you is completely unconditional.

    The thing is, I see who you are becoming involved with online and I know nothing has happened yet, but I can see exactly who that person is. That person is the scariest type of person that you could involve yourself with in your new life. You are such easy prey for this type of person because you are brand new to that life and are kind and trusting and have a history of people misunderstanding your intentions online and things escalating out of your control.

    I love you so much and I wish I could warn you to cut off contact with this person, but you want a different kind of love and you would resent me for warning you, so I won’t. All I can do is hope and pray that you will not allow this person to meet you in person, get drunk and let this person take advantage of you. There are better ways to get experience. This person is scary and over the top. Maybe what you see in this person is that they could teach you how to fully be the way that you now believe that you are and should be, but there are better ways and you don’t have to be like that person to be who you are.

    You deserve someone who will adore you and take their time getting to know the incredible person that you are, not just latch onto you because of how attractive you are and revel in the possibility of being the one to indoctrinate you. You deserve someone smart and kind and filled with dignity and class, as you are. I wish I could warn you about what you are getting into with this person. I pray that you receive the wisdom and patience needed to get away from this person before it’s too late. You deserve so much more than someone like that using your body like that. You have to know this isn’t right for you. You don’t have to do this. I hope and pray you figure that out before you allow this person to touch you.

    Love always,

    5 Responses to Standing By

    1. Honeybird
      March 10, 2014 at 11:57 am

      Wow, I feel like someone wrote this for me.
      My advice, run, don’t look back, delete everything you can about that person.
      no matter what I do I keep ending up in the same loop, and can’t get myself out of it. Its a web that you will become tangled in, and then you will lose character, you will start asking yourself ” who am I ”
      don’t be fooled by there affection the first few days, no one will understand what we go through by being attractive, they use and then toss us out because they were only under the spell of our looks, and didnt even bother getting to know us for who we are.
      please, listen to your gut. forget it, of course you deserve better., money, looks, isn’t everything, if you give pieces of your heart and soul to just anyone, your heart will be harder to put together back.

    2. disagree
      March 14, 2014 at 4:55 am

      Nicely written, but you can’t prevent people from making mistakes. Everyone has to do their own mistakes. Otherwise they won’t learn. Otherwise they will never really be able to live their life to the fullest.

    3. J Bird
      March 14, 2014 at 2:19 pm

      Are you involved **again** online?

      You must know that’s not going to work.

      Always wondered about that.
      Maybe you don’t intend for that to happen?

    4. Author
      March 15, 2014 at 11:28 am

      @ Disagree- actually we don’t disagree. I know people need to make their own mistakes, which is why I wrote this here and will never send it, as the name of this site suggests. It’s also why I titled it Standing By because that’s what I’m doing and will continue to do. Thanks though! And @ Honeybird, good luck out there!

    5. TP
      April 21, 2016 at 4:53 am

      I know this is an old letter but I have to remind because it is so sweet and caring. Whomever it was written for may have needed to hear this from a special person as obviously you care a lot about him/her. Even though I believe people will ultimately do as they will, I believe we each have a responsibility to warn when our hearts are concerned for our friends and love ones. I hope you decided to tell your person face to face. What ever happened?

      Curiosity killed the cat.

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