• Am I Alone In This?

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    Does anyone else ever feel like this? I feel guilty for feeling this way…

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    4 Responses to Am I Alone In This?

    1. thingsthatholdpeopleback
      August 30, 2013 at 8:06 am

      Guilt. An easier emotion to feel instead of fear.


    2. What do you feel guilty for?
      August 30, 2013 at 10:03 pm

      Feeling like no-one acknowledges you for the full, multi-faceted person you are?
      Or feeling like you haven’t properly acknowledged the full, multi-faceted people for who they are and not what they are or what they can do for you?


    3. @ Thingsthathold...
      August 31, 2013 at 6:53 am

      You have to have a conscience and possess empathy to feel guilt.

      Some guilt, to those who have a conscience, ARE held back by the SMALLEST things.

      Things you felt bad about 10-20 years ago…and possibly for 3 minutes.
      If it was someone close to you.
      It takes no less than a world class mental surgeon to pry that stuff out.

      I was judged as ‘even’ (no reading verifiable) on a lie detector test once, by the guy who did this for a major city police dept.
      I was the ONE who urged my associate/ somewhat friend to do this with his people. He had what amounted to $250 worth of goods stolen. I didn’t calculate what the CGS was at the time. I WANTED to know myself. The retail price was $1000.

      Long story short, he thought it was some very clever game, as I was doing the urging.
      I had a flat tire (no shit) on the way to my appointment ! PERFECT !
      I was 30 mins late and got hot at the testing man, saying “Look. I’m going to be moving. I need this done and over with. The guy owes me $900 and I need that money BIG TIME !”
      He told my buddy,like some cocky asshole “I can tell you who did it already”

      So we go through this elaborate hiring of the top guy in town. He says to my ‘boss’ : “Several meters says he’s telling the whole truth. The other one contradicts it. It’s a draw. He didn’t pass, he didn’t fail” The detective told me five minutes later, (me…having all studied up on lie detectors like a doctorate student) “Some people have such a strong sense of right and wrong that they will have these results” Verbatim.

      As a result, I moved to another city, $900 short of the commissions I was owed.


      Either way, I respectfully disagree. I think, on your side, that MAY be true for some people.
      It apparently is your reality, which I respectfully….ah. Respect. ( Lol ) Recognize. Understand. Get ya.

      (I’ve also had 100’s of hours of training on this stuff..if that makes any difference)


    4. thingsthatholdpeopleback
      August 31, 2013 at 11:16 am

      For me I was raised by a perfectionist. I’m a people pleaser, but not an introverted quiet type. I feel guilt when I shouldn’t. It’s the by-product of having sucky boundaries. Currently trying to improve that, take responsibility for allowing certain things to occur and my part in toxicity. All that “good” shit.



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