Just hear me out please. I am just a spectator here. I mean that I am not involved with anyone who posts here. But I have been here long enough (I’m sure this applies to others as well) to see that some of you are making yourselves crazy. I’m not saying it as a put down. I’m saying that you are allowing yourself to be this way by engaging on this website.
Some I know are thinking their person is here and in reality they are not. Others that may have a person here are still driving themselves crazy if their “back and forth” with their person is negative or ignored.
How does acting bat shit crazy help ANYTHING? Newsflash! It doesn’t. It just makes things worse.
My point is, you are NOT getting anywhere. You are prolonging your misery and stalling your healing. So therefore at some point you need to stop blaming others for whatever heinous thing they did to you (in your opinion) and start looking at yourself as to why you want to keep shooting yourself in the foot so to speak. YOU and only you are responsible for your own happiness. It is NOONE’S job to complete you.
Just because you think they need to do ABC doesn’t mean they have to or should do it. Take responsibility for your own life. If someone has been in your eyes a narcissist or an asshole or bitch, then why do you want to keep speaking to them? Really? I’ve dealt with a narc. You are NEVER going to “one up” them or get them to see the error of their ways and become something they are not. They will continue to suck your power and you will continue to feel like shit. SO JUST STOP.
If some guy used you, then learn a lesson from it. If some bitch is a whore, then be glad she’s not fucking with you anymore and is someone else’s problem now.
When the shit hits the fan, there is nowhere else to go once it turns a corner and gets ugly like some of the stuff I’ve seen here. Get ahold of yourself. The only person you can control is yourself. Once you let go of what is making you “sick”, it will begin to get better. It’s the truth.