Dear ____ ,
In the past year I started seeing this guy casually, it was never anything serious. I liked him and we got on very well. I was happy for it to remain as it was but he unfortunately felt differently. He now claims to be in love with me and we have had many discussions about this issue. I told him straight up that I don’t feel the same way and that for me it was never anything serious.
We have had our ups and downs (plenty of arguments) and we are finally at the stage where we can enjoy each other’s company and accept it for what it is- a friendship. On the other hand over the last while I have gotten very close to his best friend (we all move in similar social circles). In the beginning I saw our new relationship as simply good friends. We have a lot in common and our personalities complement each other massively. We became very close friends. Recently he tried to kiss me but I pushed him away. It was the first time I had even considered him as something more than a friend. I then kissed him and although it sounds very cheesy I really felt something. I think that without realising it I may be falling for him too. We have spoken about our situation and agreed that now is not the right time particulary when his bestfriend still has feelings for me. It just wouldn’t be fair on him.
We are trying to go back to the way we used to be but we are miserable. I think about him constantly and he does the same about me. I am 20 years old and have had two serious relationships but I have never felt this way before.
I don’t want to hurt anyone so I suppress my feelings but it’s getting harder and harder and I don’t know what to do.