Trust. A concept that creates such a strong bond yet is so easily broken. It is one of the few things that you can be building up for so long and in a single moment, completely shatter it. How do you reconcile this? Because even after trust has been regained, there’s always that doubt that creeps in; once it’s been polluted, it can never be made completely pure. Yes, there is forgiveness and Yes, there can be reconciliation, but when something so pure is defiled, it will always be tainted. There’s no taking back and no making up for broken trust; once it’s done, there’s no turning back. You learn to live with it and learn to forgive over and over again, going each day trying not to think about the way in which you were deceived. A certain paranoia takes over and as much as you fight it, it’s always there. Trust no longer becomes natural, but becomes a day-to-day decision and choice.
In relationships, trust is one of the single most important factors to keep that connection alive. Because without trust, how can you love? In 1 Corinthians 13 it says, “Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.” When a person is constantly lied to and deceived, how can they continue to love? They want to so badly, but fear being hurt again; and as trust is regained, they make themselves more vulnerable again, only to be wounded once more? Because when a lie is told, does it not pollute everything; even up to the three most valued words of “I love you.” How can you be so sure that those three words are spoken in truth when out of the same mouth flows the poison of deception?
And how is it that the people who want someone to confide in and trust, are also are the first ones to cheat, lie or deceive? Is that not some sort of sick irony? They claim to be protective, yet are the ones causing the harm. They claim to be faithful, yet are the ones looking over their shoulder at that other guy or other girl. They claim to always be there for you, yet are the ones who are gone when you need them most. They claim to love you, but must not realize that in love there is also trust.
This is why you have to choose to love through the hurt and you have to choose to trust through the deceit because really how can you ever be sure of anything? The truth is you really can’t be without trusting first.
That is why I say that Trust is a choice you make and a risk you take. Good luck!