• To my daughters

    by  • July 27, 2013 • * Safe for Work *, Children • 5 Comments

    Their hatred for each other shocks me to my center.

    The horrible things they say about one another to me. The horrible opinions they want me to share that I will not. The demands they make to ensure our family is not family without choosing one over the other.

    I cannot stand to be with them right now.

    I am a mom with no children.

    5 Responses to To my daughters

    1. Boon
      July 27, 2013 at 10:17 pm

      As someone who has suffered this fate, this breaks my heart. I hope that things will work themselves out. Family is so important. It’s too bad some only realize that when it’s too late. Hugs.

    2. Love Conquers
      July 27, 2013 at 10:19 pm

      Hate is a powerful word. Don’t blame you if you have no room for it in your life. A good idea would to hold your hand up and say “no…I’m not listening to not even one word you say that is bad about your sister….however, I will listen to something good.” Family counseling helps real well….first step is the hardest. But people have to want change…no one else can do it for them.

      I have three young adult children that have been inseparable since day one. My oldest is 24 and just had my first grandson whom he named after his younger brother. I have raised my children on the old saying “blood is thicker than water”. My sister and I were so close we acted like twins although we were 4 yrs apart in age. One would start a sentence only for the other to finish. To this day she is my best friend. I used to tell my children stories about the special times my sister and I had since they were small tots. They listened intently and usually asked for more stories, especially before bedtime.

      It must be heartbreaking for you to have your daughters act the way you described. I truly believe that all is not lost. Things can be turned around. A good place to start is for us parents to be leaders and be the change we want to see in our kids. Hope this helps. Hang in there…love really does conquer all…if we all choose to practice it.

    3. Think
      July 28, 2013 at 5:27 am

      My mother would never step in and settle anything. She always pretended everything was okay, even when it wasn’t. Because of her poor coping skills, when she died, I had to step in and handle the many things she wouldn’t.

      I’m not presuming this is your fault, I don’t know your situation. However, consider that having an opinion to your daughters and standing strong on it can make a world of difference. It’s not an option for a mother to throw her hands up in frustration. If there is something you could do and you haven’t, someone else will pay for it when you are gone. This I promise you.

      Best wishes for you and your family.

    4. cathy
      July 28, 2013 at 8:28 pm

      Thank you for the thoughts….truly…

      And no, I am not the quiet mom…I went down kicking and screaming….smiles…

      I am the sad, tired, frustrated, angry, frustrated mom.

    5. Family is Everything!
      July 29, 2013 at 6:35 am

      Family is the most important thing in our lives, even before love as family is what shapes us and who support us through thick and thin. I’d move heaven and earth for my family and always have as they are all I have that I cherish so greatly.

      I’m a man who still hopes one day he can have his own family….one day I wish.
      I hope it all works out for you I truly do and I send virtual hugs of compassion your way dear author as everybody deserves to be happy.

      Jacob

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