Think it over. Please don’t cheat. There is absolutely no reason to cheat on someone, ever. It destroys relationships. It destroys people. You think that it isn’t a big deal, but you simply cannot understand the magnitude of what it can do to someone until you’re the victim. I found out only recently that I have been cheated on several times in the past, over the course of a marriage that I was under the impression was overall good. When I found out, I developed a drug addiction and an eating disorder. I couldn’t handle it. Contemplated suicide. I went a straight week without sleep. Started hallucinating to the point where I carried a pistol around in my house because I was convinced there was someone else in there.
Time goes by. I think the wound is healed. But no. So this time I handle it better. But suddenly I have anxiety attacks. I have difficulty speaking at times, which is completely unlike me. Still having to deal with it. Dealing with the fallout of a failed extramarital relationship on top of what finding out about a physical and emotional affair that spanned nearly a year did to me, nevermind finding out that I have been lied to for nearly a decade. I’m sure I’m not the only one that has had to deal with this. I wonder how many lived through it.
It hurts. It destroys people. Nobody deserves to be cheated on. Do yourself and them a favor. If it’s just physical, include them or leave them. If it’s more emotional, then leave them. Don’t build a lie. The truth always comes out. Always. Someone will always get hurt. Not all people are as forgiving as I am.