IQ and EQ
by admin • October 19, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, To You • 11 Comments
Reading this site has made me realize people vary
widely in both their Intelligence (IQ) and their
Emotional Empathy for others (EQ).
And quite frankly, some of you have neither.
I am not referring to those that expose their
hurt, but instead for those who expose their
inability to see anything from anyone else’s
point of view.
Calling your boyfriend’s ex a ‘dumb bitch’.
Truly sad. And the post from the man insulting
his mistress, that one takes the Cake. God Help
us all. You are both frightening to say the least.
amen
For a long time now I have accepted that the human race is one broken bunch. The unhealthy, toxic ones are the first to put others down to make themselves look and feel better maybe? Those who are healthier usually strive to understand, they control themselves even after a moment of weakness, they don’t judge, are compassionate and are usually the first to forgive.
Insulting a mistress I think that the letter has not been read correctly as this is letters Ill never send it was just a sounding board of the things that I want to say if we see at the end of the letter it says… I wish what I said here was true as the honest truth is for me to hold till I die. I wish I could insult her and hurt her like she hurt me but I brought it on myself and I really worry for her as she is a good person unlike me who is rotten and bad.
Insulting a mistress I think that the letter has not been read correctly as this is letters Ill never send it was just a sounding board of the things that I want to say if we see at the end of the letter it says… I wish what I said here was true as the honest truth is for me to hold till I die. I wish I could insult her and hurt her like she hurt me but I brought it on myself and I really worry for her as she is a good person unlike me who is rotten and bad.
“…but instead for those who expose their inability to see anything from anyone else’s point of view.”
Pretty sure that’s the antithesis of “empathy”. Oh, wait, it is:
1. the intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another.
2. the imaginative ascribing to an object, as a natural object or work of art, feelings or attitudes present in oneself: By means of empathy, a great painting becomes a mirror of the self.
You define a word, while on your moral high-horse about people’s inability do it? My, how fucking condescending you are!
Did you just figure out what that word meant? Was it part of your daily take-home vocabulary assignment and now you want to impress people with your feigned intellectual prowess?
By the way, EQ is Emotional Quotient, not Emotional Empathy nor Emotional Intelligence. Empathy is a subset of intelligence.
Nice attempt, but come back when you’re a bit older and realize that this is the internet: your opinion matters not; especially, one that’s not as versed in knowledge, as it feigns to be.
@ Gemini, seeing as I am probably older than you, I don’t give a sh*t about
your opinion. By the way, I am in my 40′s and am very well educated, thank
you. How about you?
You hit my last nerve, jerk!
@Gemini, I thought the same about what EQ stands for but I didn’t want to correct the person, especially not as rudely as you have. We may have a very high IQ but very low EQ and that’s the reason why A students end up working for B or C students. Cheers
Can we all just grow the heck up? AWESOME.
@ Author – I was just pointing out that you need to grow up; in the sense of maturity. Just as my opinion matters not to you, I’m pretty sure that yours means the exact same to your intended audience.
You fool yourself with any sense of literal age having a sense of merit, to this discussion. You’ve reached a precipice, where your argument is moot.
My education matters not – because I, at the very least, didn’t waste the money for a higher education, just to talk about something with a feigned sense of superiority; especially, when that wasn’t even researched, before attempting some diatribe against other authors.
I hit your last nerve? Hmmm, I suppose that we’re talking in the figurative sense. I mean, dendrites and axons actually getting hit would be extremely painful! …but you already knew all of this, I conjecture.
@ Love – I was merely pointing out the crassness of the letter. I apologize that it seemed rude, but it was in direct response to the inconsiderate, unapologetic, and unempathetic position on the author, who espouses that all of the other authors fail at empathy. A kettle versus the pot, as it were.
I apologize.
Honestly, I stand behind what I say.
Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others, and of groups. You are right I didn’t use the correct terminology. However, you can see
that empathy for others is a part of EI, which may not in fact be exactly the same as EQ. We’re
splitting hairs here. I think most people knew what I was saying.
Inflammatory language does nothing but upset other people, and being pedantic is not always
the best ‘character’ trait for reaching out to others, as you can see your post upset me.
My point was that calling your boyfriend’s ex a ‘stupid bitch’ does nothing but make you look bad, upset the ex, and make your boyfriend feel he has ‘won’ something. There is no winning in relationships with others. Good relationships are based on pleasant interaction and conversation, shared enjoyable experiences, etc.
My point about affairs are that they are fundamentally a ‘bad’ idea. If you need to go out of your current relationship for the physical or emotional intimate relationships you ‘crave’ then you really
should be going to some one to talk about whether your relationship can be saved. All relationships take a certain amount of ‘work’ are you willing to do that, or are you going to go around blaming everyone else for your relationships shortcomings? If you truly and deeply care about another individual their ex (as long as they are out of the picture) shouldn’t matter, and if you have engaged
another person in an intimate relationship, especially in an affair where you most likely have
told someone all of your wife’s faults and that you will leave her one day. You shouldn’t be surprised
when they are upset that you have broken things off. Honestly if people were stronger, affairs would never be. They cause havoc in people’s lives. I speak from experience, because my mother had an affair when I was little and the ramifications are never ending. A tremendous amount of pain was caused to my mother, myself, and my brother.
I believe that promises were made to my mother that were ‘never’ kept, and was the cause of my parents divorce (I believe my parents were ‘separated’ at the time).
My education was the best thing I ever invested time and money in. It gave me purpose and skills that I use to make money and also contribute to society. If you can do that without a college education, fine. I believe my college education ‘helped’ me tremendously. I would never trade my degrees for anything except my loved ones. My family always comes first, like most Mother’s I would gladly give my life for my children. Hopefully it would never come to that, but if it did, I would gladly give it away for them.
And no I am not perfect, I make mistakes, but when I make them, I try to recognize that apologize, communicate, express myself. I do believe in a moral high-ground and I try day after day to stay there so that I do not ‘hurt’ others with my selfish actions. It is only a high ground in the sense that I want the world to be a better place, and I think I can do that by making my family as tight knit as possible, keeping my relationship with my husband sound, and telling my children I love them
everyday, and also hugging them.
Believe me I am far, far from perfect; but I really ‘TRY’ to be a nice person. Having an affair is not a ‘nice’ thing to do, it’s going to cause pain. It is going to hurt people. People should be more honest in their relationships with others. Affairs are dishonest to all parties involved. THE END.
*Some people have ‘open marriages’ it’s not something I agree with, but I have more tolerance for that then the other kind. My marriage is ‘closed’.
People can do whatever they want, but I ‘see’ trouble brewing for the people who posted those letters. That’s all. Their posts frightened me because they seem to be completely unaware of the inflammatory nature of their feelings.
Unfortunately, you can not base an entire psychological assessment, based off of your prior knowledge and experience, onto some anon writer on a website, venting some anger, not censoring the foul thoughts that most of us tend to smother day to day because you’re right it ISN’T healthy to think that way. To vent it out into cyber space where it will not harm anyone, and shall never reach the intended’s ears… I think that is the best route to go. It’s a balm on a sore wound so to speak.
You may not agree with the foul language, or the lives these others have lived, or that you think they have lived, but that’s just it. You can’t know what they feel, live, and do day to day based off of some random words posted in the heat of the moment or at the end of an exhausted day where they just want to feel better by letting it out of their mind.
The girl writing about her boyfriend’s ex might have a more tangled issue with the ex than we know, hence the name calling. The mistress might have had the man before the significant other, and have their own issues. Hell, they might have made the whole thing up because who knows, there are “trolls” on the interwebs.
I’m just saying, you all, above posters need to relax. It’s okay to disagree, or to shake your head, or even post something in return. But there is no need to drag on a fight with shaming and big words and moral complications just because you have clashing viewpoints. That is what makes this world go round.
@author. The letters shouldn’t “frighten” you. What should though, is the fact that you are so riled up over posts that don’t even affect your own life, and probably made the writers feel so relieved to write and the writers on this site, mostly go on their merry way after releasing what they say, and go scan your milk at the supermarket, or pump your gas, or drive the taxi you just took home. We’re all humans and we all see life differently and ONE day, you just might let that be what it is and enjoy your own life and work on your own problems. For now, don’t tell those writers that they are wrong living how they live, or saying what they say, because that is severely hypocritical of what is angering you.
Wow I was all over with this comment.. lol. Just everyone relax and take a breather ahaha.