I am posting this to everyone who is having trouble moving on.
No matter how hard it is, you’re going to have to move on from
whatever is dragging you down.
Maybe it’s your family, a bad relationship, a bad job, whatever…
Just make a small step in a different direction. If you feel you
really need to have a heart to heart with someone, then do it.
But that doesn’t mean they are going to respond the way you want
even if you really, really, want things to be different.
I have a friend, we both had bad relationships, I moved on married, had kids, she dwelled on it to the point she started taking drugs, quit her career, her life is a mess. Maybe I was a little callous in cutting my ex-boyfriend out of my life, but at least now I have a life where he isn’t there to make me feel bad about myself, she is holding on to hope that some day it will work out for them. We’re talking 10-years. She is a really great person, but she never let go, so she didn’t make room for anyone else.
Please, have your talk, but then let go, move on, build a life you can
be proud of. Everyone deserves to be loved. Maybe by moving on you’ll show this person what they were missing, maybe you’ll even forget about them, just make some time for yourself to be happy. Please it breaks my heart to see someone with so much going for her, throwing her life away for someone who treated her so badly. In time you’ll forget his name…