the line
by admin • September 30, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, Yearning for You • 17 Comments
If something is supposed to come of this, you have to step forward and say it. I did as much to put it out there. If the line is to be crossed, you must be the one to cross it. I need to hear how you feel. If you’re just somebody that I used to know, I will forget your saying you were happy and forget about you. I know I deserve better than someone looking for an ego boost every now and then. I will move on and get past this. I love you but I don’t want to be mollified.
you should tell them, you know? this is the sort of letters that should be sent; don’t leave any stone unturned… at least you will know for sure.
I’ve been on the flip side of a situation like this but hesitated to cross the line because:
a) The other person was very ambiguous in “putting it out there,” to the point where I have constant doubts about whether I misunderstood; and
b) The one time I tried to clarify the matter the other person acted in such a way that I felt belittled and dismissed, possibly again because we may not have been understanding each other.
So ask yourself: have you truly been crystal clear and direct about your feelings and intentions?
If there is even a chance the answer is no, you need to meet them half way.
I like that the “recent comments” highlights the previous comment as “Love on the line”
Putting yourself out there is not easy to do, my situation lead to a lot of pain and hurt, its the mind games that people play ego boots are for the needy, both parties have to communicate clearly what they want from each other and trust me often once one person opens up then everything else falls into place. Take it easy
Right, cause my selfishness is going to breakup someone’s family…not gonna happen. meh
Love is certainly on the line! I am in a predicament at the moment and this letter certainly resonates with me. I agree with the others who say you should be forthcoming with your feelings. I advise you not to assume you know the other person’s entire situation before you go making demands like ‘you must be the one to cross the line’. What if they have a lot more to lose crossing that line? If you truly love someone you would be there for them through such a confusing and emotional time. You would be the one to take that first step, and at the same time be there to protect the other person.
Im in the same sort of predicament and can understand how frustrating this is to you but maybe you should cross the line. Just FB them, email them, call them up! If you post random letters on here they may not even see them. At least if you ask them straight out then you can move on.
I wish you the best anyway.
@meh what are you going to break up if you have not already done so?
do you get it that this is a letter I am NOT sending? Because one is married and the other is not? We can wish things were different or did not take one another for granted when we were both available and not cross a line. It’s another thing to ask the other to have an affair or leave their spouse. This a letter I will never send for a reason. I am not looking to get badgered or dared to send it or give more details or advice. Its to say what I cannot say or act on.
Thanks my friend, I wish you the best as well. I posted it here specifically, because I don’t want the subject to read it. Some days this unyielding desire overwhelms me. It feels like love interrupted, but I have to imagine if it was that intense for us both, I’d know it and feel it. Our comms are very neutral because of the situation. To be honest, they’ve tapered off. So posting it here is a way of grieving – or to sustain denial – I’m grieving for something I never had?
Thanks for the support.
Wish the best outcome for you.
Best of luck with your situation – you may have a better chance at happiness in your situation than I. It’s because I’m very aware of the situation – and who has the most to lose, that it cannot be me that crosses the line. If that makes any sense to you.
Thanks for the support.
I have been in this situation and I acted I put it all on the line for the person however it was not enough. The responsibility of leaving lies with the person who is attached one can not control the hart, but one can do what is right which seams to be what you are doing even if one is taken and the other is not these things happen. It never works out so sending it is not a good idea all that it does is hurt a lot of people so you are right. I wanted things to work so badly from my end that I ended up just being a complete nutter, if I could go back I would do it all very different. Part of me still hopes that the person I am talking about is reading this but its been 3 months time to move on and leave the past behind.
Girl is this you which I don’t think it is as you do not even know about this site, if it is then I feel the same for you as I always have had.
You saying
“If something is supposed to come of this, you have to step forward and say it……If you’re just somebody that I used to know, I will forget your saying you were happy and forget about you. I know I deserve better than someone looking for an ego boost every now and then”
If this is you I was falling in love with you, I was confused, I left the country
a) because I was not in a good head space
b) cause I am not allowed to have these feelings for you.
I do not want to move on and It will make me leave who I am with to be with you but I would do it at the drop of a hat however you need to get in contact with me, I need your support and I love the person you make me when I am around you I want you to be happy but you need to know that I would only leave for you and I would do that for my own happiness.
If this is you girl which I think it is not as you do not use this site and the person here could be a guy bit if it is you then here is my response.
I still feel the same as I did when I was there, I left to find myself again and heal. This has been done, you make me happy beyond belief, and with you I feel unstoppable however to even begin to make the first move you need to contact me and talk to me, you need to be open to moving to me for a while and you need to be prepared for a hard road a head. I will lead but you must follow other wise move on. I will only be with you if you accept that I want to be happy with you and that there is no blame and only trust. I wait on your response though if this is not you then I am sorry.
Ok, now your posts make more sense, or at least your targeted questions and subtle “love conquers all” subtext. I’m amazed at how many people try to guess at who is authoring these “anonymous” letters. As though this subject is unique or experience about love loss, yearning, hurt, lust etc. are so unique. At our core we all want connection, or revenge but it all seems to be rooted at love or righting a wrong about love gone wrong, second chances and anger about abuse and violent acts. I think it cathartic.
So you put it all on the line by saying what? “Run away with me?” Did you see this person face to face? Did you end a relationship just to put it all on the line? Did you say you’d leave a situation if the other one was there waiting for you? Did you take a chance at unrequited love? Are you hoping the one you left will take you back? Trying to understand what kind of stakeholder the person from 3 months ago truly is, the one that you want or the one you cut lose and want to take you back? Is this about a recent love loss or lost love that got away. I only ask because it appears you want to talk about it before leaving the past in the past. Is MrK supposed to be truncated for something? KitKat? A trendy restaurant? Is your first name Freddy – say that K isn’t for Krueger! Short for Merk stock? A location? Ok, enough of that.
In my weakest moments I think of saying it. I think of acting on it if the other person wanted to. But I doubt anything would come of it, but I know that just hearing it, they would feel gratified by it. Something about being in a long term relationship, where the one in the relationship doesn’t cheat, but does become cold. So a drop of attention from an old flame, coworker, etc. is overpowering, and feels like someone watered a dead plant. I want to be more than temporary relief for a deprived plant. I have mistakes and miscommunication regret from 14 years ago and turns out I did nothing wrong really. I learned that our perspectives are very different though. I imagine it’s just the natural tendency to reflect back when we’re not young adults any longer, but adults with mortgages and other responsibilities. I thought it nostalgia but since we talked last and it was neutral, I think about him all the time. Not as much disclosure that I hoped for, but there is always next lifetime. I’d hope that is someone isn’t happy in a relationship, they’d sort that decision out independent of a third party, just to know that they can responsibility for their own happiness, vice needing a net to catch. Yet even I’m not that courageous.
Girl is this you? If it is then I want you to know that you make me happy, I left to find myself to sort myself out id cross the line if you asked me and contact me but you need to know that you will have to move to me in my country for a bit a few months id need your support to do what needs to be done and the answer is yes you make me happy, why did you not take me for who i am baggage and all and be happy with me? if its not you then you will know cause you are from England and i am not
Sorry.