Dear whoever is reading this,

If you have been hurt by someone you need to read this. I’m writing it to help others. I’m telling you one thing that you need to hear before it though I was completely hurt, heartbroken and floored for months over this situation and there are others going through what you are, please don’t feel alone.

Dear Jake,

Right now I am in Glasgow city centre in the middle of Starbucks, listening to Taylor Swifts new song, We are never ever getting back together and here I am again for the third time writing about how I feel on this website I wish I wasn’t. I wish I could forget and switch off my feelings completely. You clearly have gotten over and forgotten all about me. What in God’s name was the point in you, and me meeting you. Did I have to go through all this hurt, pain and confusion just so it would make me stronger. Or maybe I had to go through this so I could help others who are having trouble in the same situation.

But why?? There is so much hurt in the world. People who are hurt are good at hiding it. I’ve seen it all on this website, the hundreds of letters written by people who are feeling smashed up and hurt by people. It’s crazy.

Let me get to the point of why I’m writing again. I still miss you. Yes I know it’s been too long since we last saw each other. But now I have found some closure. Finally. It doesn’t make what you did okay though.
I recently realised what was going on in your life. I’ll explain:
when we met, you were just out of a 3 year relationship. On your facebook profile your status was that you were in a relationship. But when I asked about it you told me you hadn’t changed it so that people wouldn’t ask about it. Now, my theory is that she (your ex) went away to uni. Then you broke up coz of the long distance possibly or whatever the reason was. She’s finished University now and is back home so things have obviously carried on from where they left off. You did say that you two were still good friends but if you were just friends and didn’t have feelings for her anymore then you and me would possibly be in a better place now.
But no,
there’s no we,
there’s no us,
there’s no you and me,
there’s no nothing,
and it seems there never ever was a something.

But here’s the thing, I still wish there was all of the above instead of nothing and that’s the thing I can’t stand.
I just need you out of my thoughts,
I just need you out of my mind,
I just need you out of my heart,
I just need you out of my life,
I just need you out of my memories,
I just need to move on.

Sometimes, I feel like it’s impossible.
I met someone new that I like though. And he’s caring, thoughtful and we text just like you and I did Jake. But the thing that’s different about him that I like is that he talks to me first and he can text me off his own back which you never did. I always had to text you before you texted me. And I know texting is nothing compared to talking on the phone or talking face to face but it’s still communicating and I’m doing my best to move on.

I believe that everything happens for a reason and I think that now I realised why we had to meet. I was supposed to meet you to get hurt (I’m admitting that I’m scared of heartbreak). Hell who isn’t but I had to meet you so you could break my heart so that I could get over my fear and meet someone better.

Heartbreak happens for many reasons
Heartbreak happens to help us grow stronger,
Heartbreak happens to help us get over our fears of having people hurt us
Heartbreak happens to us so we can help others who are going through the same thing
Heartbreak happens so we can move on and appreciate ourselves once we’ve healed,
Heartbreak happens so we can appreciate future relationships and realise that they will always be better than the one before, not only that, but you will meet someone better than the one before and they will be even more of what you want and that will help you forget and heal your heart.

Don’t lose faith just because some boy/girl broke your heart. Your still alive. There are many other different things going on in the world and on this scale your heartbreak to you might feel like everything is going to end and that you’ve lost the only person you felt you could ever love but life goes on and you meet other people. I’m just starting to move on and this has helped me, I hope it helps anyone who reads it because you are more than the person who broke your heart.
You will meet others and it will take time, it always does but that’s a great thing because time is one of out greatest healers of all time.

Also, another thing to remember is that you need to believe in yourself and stand up for yourself because if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will.

Sincerely

Someone who understands what you are going through and believes that everything happens for a reason.

K