window view
by admin • August 11, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, Lost Love • 2 Comments
if i sit on my bed facing the window i can see everyone who walks up to my dorm building. in the last 10 minutes i have seen an older couple walk by with two dogs. a very muscular shirtless boy go to his car to get a shirt 
. Two roommates on their way back from work. the girl who lives across from me run down the hill to embrace her boyfriend. they hugged, kissed, walked around for a bit arm in arm, then he gave her her overnight bag back. it’s interesting this 3′ by 3′ view i have of the world. she’s dating my ex. the man i loved without caution, the man i gave my virginity to and whose i took in return. it has been a year and i am seeing someone else too but it still jolts me every time i see him. i am not over him and i am not sure i ever will be. will this tear ever mend?
it gets better but does it heal completely?
It won’t heal on its own. You have to keep yourself busy. Let yourself hurt. Get it all out of your system. Let yourself fall in love again. I know you don’t think so now- but you can fall in love again. You can fall even harder for someone else. Some other guy will make you even happier than your ex did, and you’ll wonder why you even loved him at all. Just one more thing- I’ve been the new girlfriend dealing with a crazy ex girlfriend for 2 years now. Don’t ruin his new relationship. Trust me. It will not make you any happier and you’ll look pathetic. Try to move on.
i had “that ex” as well. he was my first everything. it took me 6 years to get completely over him, but it happened by moving on, keeping myself busy and meeting new people.
if you turn to your ex for relief from the pain you feel, you will only make it worse and drag it out longer by reminding yourself of once you what had. i think it’s important to keep reminding yourself that it’s over, and realize what you have learned from the relationship to make your next one even better.
And like Ella said, don’t get in the middle of his new relationship. I know it’s hard to see them move on, but creating drama for them and yourself will only make it harder on everyone. Enjoy college! There is SO SO much to do it would be a shame to waste the best years of your life in front of that window viewing the world instead of living in it.
good luck. i hope your heart heals quickly