(A)sexual
by admin • August 8, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, Advice • 5 Comments
Some people are into men, and others into women.
I am into neither.
Arousal. Naked women. Models in underwear. Adultery.
Sex, sex, sex.
It’s something that I’ve never wanted, something I’ve never been into. Not by choice, but by instinct. By feeling.
Masturbation?
I don’t do it.
Horny?
Never.
And it hurts hearing the little comments the “sexual” folk make to me.
“Maybe you just haven’t found the right person yet.”
“It’s probably a hormone thing.”
“Have you tried different stimulation’s?”
“Were you ever molested?”
You don’t understand. I’m just not sexually attracted to men or women. Maybe not romantically either. And that’s all it is, and I am fine with it. Confused, sometimes. Angry, upset, hopeless, sometimes. But not towards myself. Towards my friends, family, and every stranger I’ve met and liked.p
Stop treating me, treating us, like we’re something inhuman to poke at, to laugh at, to stalk and harm.
I am asexual, and there’s more of us out there than you think.
Honestly, meeting you would be refreshing. Not weird, odd or off putting. Refreshing.
If anything, I’m jealous of you, since it seems (forgive me if I’m wrong), that you’re much more focused on more important things then.
I don’t think I could treat you as something inhuman.
Please don’t say you’re jealous… I don’t mean to be rude, but it honestly sucks sometimes hearing that. It’s not easy, and there’s a ton of pressure put on you. A lot of weight as an asexual.
I mean, I lead a normal life, it’s just far different when it comes to terms of sex, and that’s the part that’s hard.
I apologize if I offended you. As someone that has spent so much of my life in search of love and been so intensely and hopelessly sure of something working out…and it inevitably falling apart, you feel like a breath of fresh air.
Of course, I forget that its not easy. I would actually agree with you and the pressure; the media has made it seem acceptable for people in my age group to be going from person to person for casual relationships that could be anything from kissing to sex. That’s never been my style.
While I am not in the same boat as you, I share the same opinion in a mild regard. I have no interest in sex. I differ from you in that I know that will change in the future, because I am of the opinion that sex is only for reproduction (and it’s kinda gross when you think about it too much), basically, and having a baby in my lap makes me grit my teeth. However I subscribe to the hope of finding someone else similar to myself who would be my greatest companion, which is why I keep searching for love.
So, what I’m trying to say, Ray, is that I’m sorry for coming off as ignorant. I had no intention of doing so. I think I’m more glad to know there are other people out there. I hope you find what you’re looking for.
Hey, it’s no problem. And, it’s to each his own, which goes for both you and me. I have my struggles, you have yours. We’ll never understand each other’s internal conflicts, and that’s perfectly normal.
I wish you well on finding whatever it is you’re looking for.