So you’ve been down on yourself for your entire life pretty much. You’re not pretty enough, you’re not skinny enough, you’re a nerd, no one likes you, you’ll never find someone who loves you, you talk too much, you’re awkward, you’re easy to forget. All things that have run through your mind over and over for years and years.

You have moments where you forget all of this seems to fade and you feel good about yourself, and then something happens to come along and tear you down and make you feel even worse about yourself. It’s a monster of a cycle and it seems like there’s no escaping it right?

Wrong. There is an easy way out. Don’t listen to that voice inside of your head. Don’t let it bring you down.

You are pretty enough, and skinny enough. You don’t need to change these things and who you are to fit in. Ignore the media. The people in that aren’t “normal” people for the most part. They pay crazy amounts of money for trainers and nutritionists to plan every ounce of food or drink the consume. They have their stylists, hairstylists and makeup artists to make them look like they do. It isn’t that easy for us normal people. Just keep that in mind.

You’re not a nerd, and though they may not be as important as the people you want to like you, take a look around you at who’s surrounding you. There are plenty of people who like you and love to be around you. So what if you’re awkward or talk too much. It makes being with you entertaining because you never know what is going to come out of your mouth or what you’re going to do.

Why do you care if you’re easy to forget? If someone finds you easy to forget obviously you didn’t mean enough to them and they’re missing out. The people that matter are the ones that can’t forget you because you are so important to them.

As for the never finding someone to love thing, don’t worry. Sure all of your friends may have boyfriends or girlfriends. Sure they may have more experience in the love world than you do. That doesn’t matter. You will find the right person for you. The person who will go to bed and wake up thinking about you. The person who thinks you can do no wrong and are perfect. The person who loves you just as much as you love them. In the words of one of my favorite bands, My Girl Friday “Good love will find you someday, but if you keep on looking for it, it will only keep you waiting. To whom it may concern, good love will find you someday. Til then, live well, live happy, live free.” These words are the truth. Just think of them next time you start bringing yourself down watching couples around you thinking you’ll never have that.

To be honest, I really needed to just write this out for myself. I needed to put down the words and advice that I have been trying to tell myself since middle school but won’t listen. But at the same time, I hope this can help someone else because I know that there are plenty more people going through the same thoughts in their head. Basically just remember, you are you and you are perfect the way you are.