Why?
by admin • July 15, 2012 • Abuse, Frustration • 4 Comments
Dear family,
WHY?!?
What the hell is wrong with you all?!?
You all saw what was going on, why’d you make jokes?
Haha it’s so fucking hilarious that Adrian is a pervert and oogles young women when he’s a married man!
Aunt Nicki why the hell did you say NOTHING?!? He’s your HUSBAND!! You SAW us. You saw with your own eyes that he was abusing me, the only time you acted was in the car remember? You sat between us and gave me a sat smile and a pat on the knee. You saw, you knew, but you didn’t help…
Mum, you stood behind me while he hugged me and grabbed my ass! Why the hell didn’t you say something? “Get your hands off my daughter” would have been good!
None of you even knew what had already happened but then as I was thinking this shouldn’t be happening and it was wrong you all basically stood on his side. You taught a 12 year old girl that everything he was doing was okay.
Mum, Lyle, Nicki, Ray, Dave, Pam, Jan. You all heard him. You all heard him talk about my body in a lewd way. You heard him and you said nothing. Where was the “what the hell are you saying that’s your niece?”? Where was the “how would you know what she’s like down there?”?
Lyle I thought better of you. You protected me from Mike when you found out he was a sexual predator. You made the distance between us so evident that I freaked out and that was the only way I found out what you saw on his laptop. Lyle I still love you and all but how did you do nothing? Did he touch you too? I must say things did get worse when you left… But how could you not notice when you heard me climbing into the wardrobe when you were literally across the hall??
I’m so hurt that no one stepped up and helped me when it was damn obvious. My grades were awful when I was a straight A student! Did none of you care? Did none of you think you should make this stop? And that was just what he did in front of you!
None of you opened your eyes. None of you even noticed when he’d touch me in a room full of all of you! Over the years at the family reunions he got more and more bold, not just with what he said. None of you noticed him touching me in front of all of you!
He rubbed my legs and between them with all of you in the room. I was even talking to some of you at the time, it wasn’t even discreet like under a table or something. All of you just chose not to look, not to say. You just joked that he was a perv.
It hurts, I’ve gone over and over what HE did and I’m getting there, but I’m struggling with what all of you did NOT do. I know it’s not all your fault, I know I should have said something too, when I was thinking about it though I had no idea what to do and all of it got worse to which you were witnesses to.
I still love you all, you’re my family.
Um ya no. Fuck your family. Sue them for neglect. For them not doing snything they are judt as responsible even in the eyes of the law. And in most places you can prosecute sexual abuse seven years aftsr it occurs on all responsible parties.
I couldn’t do that. I still haven’t said anything to them… I’m too ashamed. I still love them. Even my fucked up uncle. Screwy I know.
Do you fantasize about having sex with an older man? I ask this question with a purpose, you might think that it is ok if they see it as if it was ok as well and believe me sweetie it is and it will never be ok, that is not only sexual harassment but a human rights violation as well and if you lose your dignity to this asshole then you will lose absolutely everything.
You need to have a serious chat about it with your mom and dad and let them know that even if the consequences are gonna be an embarrassment for the whole family, you are not willing to have a pedophile near you. You seem to me like you have a very dysfunctional and fucked up family. Have you had sex before and was that person an adult?
Nope I don’t fantasize about having sex with an older man. I am in a loving committed relationship and have been for 5 and a half years.
I guess I’ve lost everything in your eyes. I feel like he took everything from me. My dignity, self respect and most painfully my virginity.
I couldn’t talk to my parents they’re both worthless drunks anyway. Whatever I say would be forgotten after they passed out so why bother? So yes I do come from a very fucked up and dysfunctional family.
I try not to go to any event in which I think he might be there. Last time I was caught by surprise when he showed up, I was 18 and realized nothing will ever change.
As I said earlier no I had not had sex before. He took my virginity when I was 13. He continually raped me for 2 years. It was a very slow build up.