Here’s the thing. The person gives you everything you need but somehow when people talk about their new found relationships and the small sweet things they do for them it makes you want more than what your significant other is giving to you.

Why?

It’s not that we stop loving the other person, it’s because we stop doing everything we did to get them to love us and we stop appreciating the things little things they still do for us. For example maybe your partner takes you out to eat which you enjoy, but instead you wish he would have spent to money to bring you flowers or surprise you with something you have been wanting for a while. Problem is we spend so much time with one another that we assume we know everything the other person wants/likes and we stop asking. We stop being curious about what makes the other tick. We no longer know their favorite song, their favorite food, their favorite anything..we just assume we do.

And so… the relationships begin to dwindle because you now believe that the person no longer gives you what you desire (bc they don’t know, and you stop telling them) so you try to move on to someone who does.

Then after a while, you start to wonder why the hell you left the person in the first place. You start to miss the little things they did that you so many times took for granted. You start to wish that maybe they could take you out to dinner again and kiss you even though they had already done so millions of times before. By then, it’s too late.

Let me use a non-relationship scenario to better explain the situation
When NASA was founded and the US went to the moon it was on the fear factor that Russia would control space travel. The U.S was willing to fight and advance in research to win over that control.Every American had the passion and motivation to reach something incredible. Once the U.S saw that Russia stopped, the U.S stopped going to the moon they stopped advancing and settled. As Neil Tyson said “We stopped dreaming.”

Same thing in a relationship, once you have fought and done incredible things to get your partner and you think that they can’t go anywhere you stop trying, they stop trying and we all stop dreaming of a future.