To the ether
by admin • May 12, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, Parents • 2 Comments
Tonight I began pondering something consciously which I think I’ve been pondering subconsciously for a long while.
I’m 21. I’m in University. I don’t want children of my own, yet everyone around me appears to be going baby-mad currently. So here’s my pondering.
I’ve met, and read about, so many couples who strive for a child and yet are hampered by their own biology. Either they are physically incapable of having their own because of the gender of both them and their partner, or they are medically unable to produce their own through illnesses or abnormalities or whatnot.
In my country (the UK) surrogates have to be 23, and they don’t receive financial encouragement. They have expenses paid for, the medical bills and travel and whatnot. That’s paid by the Intended Parents.
But here’s the thing. I’m sat here, not wanting my own kids. My body is healthy and fertile and just going to waste. If I ever had my own kids, I probably would adopt. I don’t know why, but this is how I feel.
I’ve got 18months until I’m old enough to properly consider it, 18months to research it and tell those I love and find/tell employment – that’s if I begin instantly to get pregnant. It’s just an idea.
that’s so selfless and generious of you. if you go through with you, you will make someone very very happy.
i might also suggest since your so young, if you are intersted in traveling, come to the US and be a sergiate here. Not only will you get paid, but you can use the money to travel and find yourself.
just a thought. i hope it all works out the way you hope
You may want to be wary of the advice of someone who can’t even spell or use proper grammar. They sound young.
You don’t want children, but you may adopt? How does that make sense? (spoiler – it doesn’t)
If you do adopt, let them know their original parents (or birth parents if you prefer) if it’s possible. They already had a family. Situations notwithstanding, they have a family. Then they will have another through you.
Don’t forget that. It’s okay for them to have their original parents and their identities and heritages. Please remember that. Please.