An appeal to the universe
by admin • May 1, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, Hope • 8 Comments
Dear Universe,
So if my reality is constructed by my thoughts way am I still lonely? There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about him and yet still he’s not by my side. How is it that though I try to occupy my time with someone else, I miss and want him even more? Why is it that even though I am trying to move on I find my new suitor (who would seem sweet to just about anybody) so damn repulsive. It’s almost as if I’m forcing myself to like someone else knowing full well I am still so in love with my ex.
It’s been five months and it doesn’t seem to be getting any better. Every moment I spend away from him strengthens my feelings for the man I feel is my soulmate. Sometimes I wonder if I’m going crazy. Why can’t I forget about this man or better yet why can’t I just pick up the phone and tell him just how I feel?
For now all I can find the courage to do is continue to produce thoughts of him, hoping that the law of attraction will bring us back together sooner or later. After all, my reality is suppose to be constructed by my thoughts right?
I certainly hope so.
A wondering soul.
it is your thoughts and your feelings HOW you are feeling, the power of intention not just the thoughts specifically; if you are getting a blank it is because you are sending out mixed feelings. Just love the man! send that love to him, your feelings to him, not your desperation and neediness of him. Does that make sense?
I think we all get it wrong sometimes, we get so caught up in the negative feelings, that we miss out on the good ones.
Send out just your love and positiveness. Check out how you are feeling at the moment and I am sure that you will discover that you are emiting not only feelings of love but some others not so positive as well. Hope this helps.
It’s hard. Getting over someone seems endless, feels endless. Part of the reason that it takes so long for us to get over someone is that often we really, really don’t want to. And it seems you don’t. Which is normal and your choice – nobody can judge you for that.
Getting over something has no deadline, you can never predict when someone will feel ready for something new. You’re evidently trying to with someone else, but there’s a reason ‘rebound’ relationships often don’t work: we’re normally too emtionally invested in past love to really try with the present. If it’s not working with this new man, it’s up to you whether you stay with him. Please don’t lead him on – it will be hard for him to find out you’re invested in someone else but I think most people would prefer to know if they were in that situation.
Maybe it’s too early to be with someone else? You’re still in the denial phase of grief for the relationship, the one where you’re hoping things will work out somehow. It’s natural, but it won’t last forever. Unrequited affections burn out because nobody can live forever on a mere dream. When you really feel ready to start to move on, you will feel more at peace with the idea of letting go. You will need to try to think about other things than your ex. Obsessing about something that matters deeply to us is natural, but it can hurt us and leave us stuck and idealising things to be better than they really were. Don’t keep them on Facebook etc. Don’t contact them, it will undo any progress you’ve made and you will feel as raw as you did 5 months ago.
Things will get better. Either what you currently desire will happen, or you will no longer desire it and will get whatever you want then. I wish you the best in these difficult times.
Is there really any truth to the law of attraction? Like really?
@Curious
Re: Truth to the Laws of Attraction
Well, if you or I could answer this, then we would certainly be running this place. Mainly- Earth. The fact of the matter is, some attractions are just stronger than others. There is puppy love, crushes, and then there are just some that feel like a tidal wave of hell hitting you over and over again.
For example:
1.) You can initially look at someone and get all fuzzy inside and just simply drool at the fact that they exist on this planet. That would explain the very fiber of physical attraction in itself. Those are great and we have all been there. Then, they do or say something that turn you off. *sigh*Great to look at, but they do nothing to make you want more of them. Those are always a disappointment.
2.) You can also talk or communicate with someone and never feel the physical spark but they make you feel like the most important person on earth and never let you forget that they will always be there for you. That happens quite a bit and can be very frustrating if it’s not mutual. *sigh* Friendzone- we all have them. Sorry, but it’s true.
3.) The third one is the kicker… at least in my eyes anyway… You meet someone and are attracted to them physically but not as if they are some Greek God or Goddess -( who wants that anyway?- In my movies, yes- In my world- no ). Then you start noticing more and more things about them that creep up on you like a wild animal in the jungle that attract your mind as well as your body. You want to run away- but can’t. It feels great! Mind blowing in fact.- But scary- all at the same time… They say all the right things, make you laugh, flirtation begins between you but you keep it sweet and that ignites attraction of a possible long term mate and that’s when things get weird. Somehow, through communication- you then sense their same fear of letting you in, and you back to them.. etc.. and then this beautiful ballet that you were choreographing together suddenly turns into this messy battle – or “ the game”- if you will. This is where the laws just fail us as humans. Cat and Mouse , Dogs chasing tails … It takes all the rational part out of it. Then every sports analogy known to man seems to take over.. Then you are tired- left confused and unsure of yourself. You start being something that you are not- Nerves, etc.. It happens- fact of life.. Two words= HOT MESS! Haha… Then it stops. *sigh*
4.) You then meet someone that is close to what you felt for #3 but he/she does not have a shot in hell because you are exhausted… and they are still looking for that feeling that #3 gave them…
The answer to your question is that there is no answer, unfortunately. Some people just grip your heart tighter than others… there is no formula. It just is…
Angel
@ Angel, You are so right. I’m so exhausted.
I find it strange that even after so long without seeing or speaking to him I still feel this magnetic pull towards him but then again why should I find it strange. I have been feeling this way for the past seven years even after being apart for four years (we didn’t speak or see each other) we still found ourselves back together. I have never had this magnetic pull towards anyone else and I know I never will. So I guess with our history and chemistry/ quantum physics we will somehow find our way back to each other. I think we are just waiting on the other to make the first move (as always). I just don’t have the courage.
I can relate to number three but the only fear we have of letting each other in is that we are both taken.
Im in the same boat@a wandering soul.