• Mother-in-law

    by  • April 3, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, The In-Laws • 3 Comments

    To “her”,

    I cannot start with Dear because it would not be sincere.
    I cannot address with “Mother”-in-law because to me the title
    of mother has more meaning.
    I am happy that right now you have no plots against me.
    However, please do not act like you know my child better than I do.
    If I want her taught a certain way, that’s my decision. I am her MOTHER.
    Yea, you see her every other week for a few hours, that hardly
    counts as being involved. I am glad that in your 50’s you finally
    got your masters in Special Education and have been teaching it for
    a year, but her teachers have been doing it a lot longer.
    Just because you want my autistic daughter to speak and
    get better does not mean you should push her to the limits
    with what you think is best. She is 5, and the reality is, if
    I only concentrate on getting her to talk instead of giving her
    an effect way she CAN communicate, I may never know what she is thinking.
    She does not need to be fixed, there is nothing wrong with her, she is
    different. Of course, I wish she would talk, I am not giving up.
    But, I am not going to take away her childhood trying to fix what is
    not broken.
    I am glad you care the couple times a month you see her.
    It is not your job to show up to school meetings, send letters
    to her teachers without me knowing, and contradict me in front
    of others with things about my child you do not even know.

    3 Responses to Mother-in-law

    1. B.
      April 4, 2012 at 2:02 pm

      Get a no contact order. She can’t legally send things to her school or teachers without you’re permission. I’m sorry she’s pushing you’re daughter, that won’t help. Not in the least. I can only hope for the best for you abc you’re little girl.

    2. Jamie
      April 6, 2012 at 12:31 am

      I think you should actually send this letter (maybe with minor modifications though, I mean she may be a witch, but she’s still your in-law). I’m not going to pretend to understand the situation, but maybe she isn’t aware of the effect her actions/expectations have on you are your daughter?

      Anyway, I just wanted to say that I admire your fierceness when it comes to your daughter and what is best for her. There is no greater gift a parent can give a child then unconditional love and acceptance. Keep being awesome!

    3. L
      April 7, 2012 at 8:24 am


      You should check it out 🙂

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