• No Talk=No Good

    by  • March 29, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, To You • 0 Comments

    Dear B,
    All I did was be nice to you, listen to your problems and things happening, and care about you and enjoy spending time with you. If I need to be emotionless and silent and act like a detached Buddha, and we can’t discuss anything, I guess I will just consider you an acquaintance. You get mad when you are accused of drama when you want to talk with your ex, yet you disregard my experience and make me feel like I am unstable or something when I just want to talk about something so that we can move on from it. You tell me my gut feeling is mistaken, but something is up, I know that, yet you deny it. I thought you had an idea of what a mutual any kind of relationship is,which includes talking about things even if it’s hard or uncomfortable.It also includes being mutually supportive of the other’s joys and sorrows and efforts to be the best person they can be. At least you seem to know what it is when others don’t give you the courtesy of that and you are hurt by it, but don’t afford others the same, at least not me.

    I know I am a good person, a stable person, a great friend, trustworthy, count on able, caring and supportive, forgiving and accepting. I have skills and experience(including broken relationships) that tell me that if something needs to be talked about and there is conflict it should not be ignored but resolved. So I try to contribute that. If someone thinks things about the other and is bothered by it and doesn’t check it out, those thought aren’t able to go away. So, if you don’t care to engage in any depth with me, then maybe I will lower my expectations to our friendship as a superficial one. But, being the understanding person that I am and my true like for you, I am going to give the benefit of the doubt and assume that you are just not able to right now because of your own issues. If over time you don’t come around, I will just be your ear and not be too relational minded about us-just casual. That is fine but I didn’t think that is how you would want to be regarded. Oh well, time will tell, but I am going to protect my heart.

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