• A note to self!!

    by  • March 15, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, Goodbye • 5 Comments

    A note to self;

    No person who openly admits they are selfish with regards to the effort they put in to your relationship is worth having in your life!!

    Re read this when you think of contacting him and remind yourself that with regards to when he said he likes the ‘single life’ you referred to it as ‘sleeping around’ and he replied ‘if the opportunity arises’

    He was not the one that got away, you were!!!

    Do not do it!! Do not contact him!!

    With all the love in the world because you need it right now,

    From Me To Me.

    5 Responses to A note to self!!

    1. that girl
      March 15, 2012 at 7:20 pm

      wow! just what i needed to hear.

    2. Thi girl
      March 21, 2012 at 3:26 pm

      To ‘That girl’

      Its almost a week since i posted my letter and i am happy to say i have not contacted him. I miss him and want to hear his voice and have him next to me, but feel more at peace in myself and hope this will continue.

      I was filled with the most unbelievabe rage on Monday when he tried to contact me through the wonderful world of facebook … again showing me how little effort he can be bothered making!! Seriously facebook??? I am worth more than that!!

      I hope you are staying strong!! And have not contacted him.

      The one thing i have learned from all this is that he took ‘all’ my energy and i had lost who i was. We do not need men to remind me of who we are.

      With love from
      This girl. xx

    3. Enjay
      March 21, 2012 at 5:44 pm

      I am glad to hear you are winning this battle! If those are indeed his responses, you are far better off not dealing with any further pain, because that is all that awaits you by pursuing him.

      You ARE the one who got away, and you deserve someone who can see your worth and beauty through the purest of lenses.

      Know that I also support you in your battle to let him go. I know how difficult it can be to not contact someone when your heart so longs to hear their voice again, because more pain than good will ever arise from such situations. I currently haven’t spoken to her in exactly three months, so I understand the struggle.

      Keep fighting! And one day love will show up to your doorstep.

      With prayer and support,

    4. that girl
      March 21, 2012 at 7:22 pm

      Dear ‘This Girl’,
      I’m so glad you wrote. I know how hard it is. I’m having a really difficult time not wanting to pick up the phone and just call, but I’ve been restraining myself from doing that, and reading your letter over again really has helped me to stay strong.

      Like you I lost who I was too and it was heart breaking. But in the end looking at both of our situations we are worth it and deserve to be valued not only as women, but as individuals that have a lot to offer the world and other people… and most of all we are worth it to be treated with love and respect. It’s profound but so true what you discovered in that we don’t need men to define who we are or our worth.

      It will be hard to let go, but having your support on here gives me the courage to keep fighting and moving forward.

      Keep being strong and know that I’m thinking about you too.

      ‘That girl’

    5. This girl
      April 4, 2012 at 5:31 pm

      Thanks Enjay for your kind words, prayers and support, they are helping me everyday to get by.

      To that girl,

      I have a confession, knowing he would be at work today I put my number on private and called to hear his voice on his answer machine. Pathetic I know, but this last week has been a struggle! It’s almost three weeks now and I still miss him everyday. I have tried to fill the gap, but the more I try, the more I realise that it is him I miss and not just the male company and attention. But, I have not forgotten how he made me feel before things came to an end! I was an anxious quivering mess hoping and waiting that he would magically make things better when deep down I knew he wouldn’t, as he said himself, he is too selfish!!

      I have found that I am a far stronger person than i give myself credit for and in my time of need, my friends have been incredible! (they must be sick of the sound of his name by now, ha). Things are slowly but surely getting there!

      Anyway, how are you doing? Are things getting easier for you? I want you to know that I am great full that you commented in my letter. It has helped me stay strong and avoid calling him (bar the one answer phone call today) knowing that you are going through the same.

      With love and hugs
      This girl. Xx

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