• The woman you want, or the woman you think you want??

    by  • March 9, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, Dating • 0 Comments

    I am 28 years old and my brain won’t stop thinking! What do you men really want? You say you want an attractive woman who is strong and independent. You say you want a woman who is intelligent and knows her own mind. You say you want a woman who has her own life and doesn’t need to rely on her man for company, but, do you? Do you really?? Because here I am!! And guess what I feel like I’m going round in circles!

    The last guy I met, I know it was all these qualities that attracted him, but I fear it is all these qualities that made him think that I’m either a) too much like hard work b) he couldn’t give me enough or c) I’m not ‘needy’ enough and therefore and don’t make him feel masculine.

    Honestly, I feel like I can’t win! I can’t change who I am. I will not change who I am.


    When you first meet someone, all the things you get to see of the other person are what they want you to see, yes??? Now, that may be because they have been hurt in the past and do not want to appear a walk over, which is probably true of most, but it may also be because we have been slowly taught over the years with what we can only call the learning curve of trials and tribulations of relationships past that showing too much emotion correlates weakness.

    So as I woman with all the qualities I mentioned before I over emphasize how confident I am and how assertive I am, therefore starting out as I mean to go on and showing you men that I will not take crap and flimsy promises that can be so easily broken.


    Given a bit of time, you will find that in there is a woman who wants to make a home, bare your children and look after the husband she one day hopes to have. But here lies the problem, it’s all about time, hard work and time invested. Now it is my belief that some, not all of you men when met with the challenge of a woman who has all the afore mentioned qualities that if you have to work too hard to get the inner rewards then it’s easier just to quit and walk away. After all, you don’t even know at this early point in any relationship that all these inner qualities are even in there.

    Finally, i don’t actually know where i am going with this, its just some of the many unanswered questions i have floating around in my head. I know that one day i am supposed to meet the man who will answer all these questions for me.

    Who bloody knows?? Not me, thats for sure!

    A woman’s mind is a fangled and complex thing!

    With love to all you good men left out there, go take a leap of faith and make her happy!

    L xxx

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