• Soulmate

    by  • February 23, 2012 • Advice • 2 Comments

    This first part is for DC, looking for CB. No, I’m not her. So don’t get all excited. Look, I don’t know you, and I’m really sorry if I’m crossing a line here. But, it looks like you’re the biggest LINS stalker ever. You comment on everything, hoping that a letter on here is from her, and I almost feel like you’ve become obsessed with it. I’m not trying to pry or be mean, I’m just trying to give you some advice and hopefully snap you out of this. If you truly love this person- if your number one wish is to be with her. If you believe that you belong together. If you can’t possibly stop thinking about her, and can’t imagine being with anyone but her: What the hell are you doing on here??? God damnit, FIND HER! You’re scared, I get it, rejection sucks. But if you really think that becoming a hermit and checking this website every five seconds is going to do anything about it, you are seriously mistaken. If you want her, get her. Do something about it. Don’t go off of some stupid false hope that she’s magically going to write a letter on here to you saying “SURPRISE! I love you, I never meant to leave you, come back to me!”. Because it’s not going to happen. The only way you’ll get her back is to work at it. And it’s not going to be easy, but if you love her, then you shouldn’t let anything stop you. Just don’t do anything weird and crazy and drastic, k? Be her knight in shining armour, not a computer nerd living in your mom’s basement.

    But I guess this is really a letter to everyone out there who’s in love with someone they don’t have. Get off your asses and do something about it, because life is too short to be with anyone but your soulmate. I myself lost my knight in shining armour last week. But I love him more than anything, and I’ve never been more determined in my life to somehow, at some time, get him back. Now might not be the right time, not for me and maybe not for some of you, but you’ll know when it is. You’ll know when to act. You’ll realize that there isn’t anyone else out there for you except that one person. Because when two people are meant to be together, fate does its job of bringing them together, at some point in time.

    Good Luck
    Much Love

    2 Responses to Soulmate

    1. DC
      February 23, 2012 at 4:12 pm

      Ah… it’s a sad story it is my friend. Why don’t I go to her? I can’t. Long story short: we had problems as all couples do, nothing that wasn’t fixable (no cheating, lying, etc). Her ex had been emailing her for two years trying to convince her to leave me. He knew what he was doing; keeping his name in her mind so when she got weak (and he knew she would) she might pull the trigger.

      She pulled the trigger. Rather than work on our issues she decided to go behind my back, use my trust in her to set things up with him (I never violated her email), lie to me for months, not share what was on her mind or in her heart (though I tried many times to pull her out of her funk). She put more effort into destroying us than fixing us. But for reasons not worth going into here (actually very worth it, just not going to do it) I forgive her all of it. Let me just say she’s not well and leave it at that.

      Why don’t I go to her? He broke my marriage up. I have an axe to grind with him. He is armed. I am armed. I cannot go over there; one of us will go to jail, the other to the hospital and that will solve nothign. See? Solutions aren’t always as easy as they seem to be.

      I do know that she “talked” to me on here while she was making up her mind; I found the messages and due to clues I know they are her. She also talked to “him” on here. Thus I look for messages. Does it annoy you? Sorry. She’s the only woman I ever loved enough to call my wife and I’m trying to use everything I can to stay alert to her. Again, without going into details it is actually quite likely that she would cry out for me on here (let’s just say he’s…. not a nice man. Not the bitter ex talking – everyone who knows him says bad things about him. She had a “moment of madness” as she put it). We had something real and good; she made a bad decision for the right reasons if that makes sense.

      When her cancer treatment was going on she called me her “knight in shining armor.” I corrected her and said it was rusty and dented and so I became that knight.

      I am 53 years old and not living in anyone’s basement. Please do not pretend to know something you do not.

      So thanks for taking the time to give advice that, ordinarily, would be excellent advice. I trust I have cleared up how it won’t work here.

    2. Author
      February 23, 2012 at 6:30 pm

      Im sorry i was mistaken. I did not mean to jump to conclusions, but i suppose i did. I suppose i have just run into too many people who fit my aformentioned category, and it irks me more than anything. I really do hope that one day you two will be able to be together. I guess sometimes it does more harm than good to try and get what you want, or need.

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