• I told them

    by  • February 22, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, Family Stuff • 1 Comment


    I was 7 1/2 months pregnant.

    I told my husband – “please” stop drinking, stop gambling, stop taking pills, stop yelling at me…

    I told my mother –
    who lived two hours away, “please, come get me”. (When we got there, I had a placental abruption.)

    I told the ambulance driver –
    who asked about my husband, “just get me to the hospital”.

    I told the obstetrician –
    “just save my baby, I don’t care if there’s a huge X on my stomach” (as she explained she had to do an emergency C-section and there would be a visible scar)

    I told the social worker –
    they requested I speak with in neonatal “I don’t need counseling, I need a divorce” and I would divorce my husband in exactly six months. (I told her I could not take on the divorce until then as my two and a half pound baby [and my other daughter who was 2 yrs. old] needed me. I needed to care for my premature baby – and get stronger myself).

    I told the lawyer –
    it was “exactly six months, start the divorce”.

    I told my daughters – 2 1/2 and 6 months old…
    it wasn’t going to be easy but “I’d always be there for them”. We’d be poor for sure but they would always be happy, safe, loved, so loved.

    I WILL NOT tell my ex-husband –
    how he failed as a husband, father, man. He was in and out of their lives for 21 years, had a second marriage, divorce, 2 more kids and has not seen my girls in almost 7 years.

    My daughters are now 21 and 19 –
    they are beautiful, happy, incredibly smart, talented young women.
    It has been an honor and a joy to be their mother. I am SO proud of them.

    I told myself today, “you did a good job.”

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    One Response to I told them

    1. Rock Girl
      February 23, 2012 at 7:51 pm

      You did a GREAT job for your girls, for yourself and for the family the three of you created. Just from these little snapshots of your life you are a strong and amazing woman. You have set an incredible example of strength and self-reliance for your daughters. I hope they grow up to be just like you. The world is a better place because all three of you are in it.



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