• So you’re single?

    by  • February 16, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, Advice • 4 Comments

    Single people of the world,

    I’m single. Of course for various reasons, but none of them are really important. I get lonely, yes, especially before falling asleep. I know it’d be nice to be in a relationship in comparison to my single status, and I know that everyone wants to be loved but…

    Please stop complaining. Being single is not the end of the world. You will most likely find someone who is going to love you, maybe today, maybe in three years, who knows. The most important thing for you do to is live your life how YOU want it, not for someone else. You need to love yourself completely in order for you to be capable of truly loving another.

    Do not make excuses either. You can be single and not have to explain why, or how, or whatever. Embrace it. In fact if you do, you’ll probably be more attractive to other people because of your confidence.

    I’m not saying that you’re not allowed to feel. If you’re hurt because you’re heartbroken, then that’s okay. But you should know that it will get better eventually and I know you’ve heard that a thousand times but it’s so true. Let go and you’ll discover how bittersweet it is. Open yourself up to new possibilities! Or maybe you’re just getting lonely, and that’s okay too! We all get lonely once in awhile, but we must not let it consume us, or we’ll miss out on life.

    Also, please do not complain about always being stuck in “the friend zone”. When that’s all you talk about, it makes you look desperate and kind of pathetic. Yes, it sucks when you have feelings for someone and they can only see you as a friend. But sometimes that just happens. You can’t control how others feel about you and if they don’t see you in a more than a friend type of way, you should respect that. And besides, if they can’t see how incredibly awesome you would be as a partner than they probably don’t deserve you anyway.

    Also, being “too nice” is never a problem and should not be used as an excuse for you to validate your single-hood. Being nice is a wonderful personality trait. It means you’re a good person. And because of that it’s possible you might be taken advantage of but as long as you recognize what you deserve and don’t let others push you around than it’s not a problem. If someone tells you they can’t date you because you’re just too nice, it probably means that they either 1. really think that you deserve better than them or 2. just aren’t that into you and want a nice way of saying it so they don’t hurt your feelings. Also if you’re constantly talking about how you’re just too nice and that’s why you aren’t dating anyone, it makes you look slightly pathetic in that you have to say out loud that you’re a nice person. It’s unnecessary and should just be avoided.

    Being single can be really great. You don’t have to answer to anyone. You are independent. You can flirt with whomever you want. And sometimes, you even learn a lot about yourself, and who you really are. So don’t be so bummed out about it! Things could be so much worse and you are most likely to find that special someone when the time is right 🙂

    A single lady

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    4 Responses to So you’re single?

    1. Elek
      February 17, 2012 at 1:59 am

      Single Lady,

      Those are some very wise and true words. Can I take you out to dinner sometime.

      Yours Truly,
      A single fella


    2. Stargirl
      February 17, 2012 at 9:44 am

      I just want to high-five you. I’m a single lady too & I’m tired of all my single friends bitching about it. It’s not getting them anaywhere.


    3. K.
      February 17, 2012 at 10:49 am

      I used to complain about being single. Then a very complicated relationship happened. I swore I would never complain about being single again.


    4. KTC
      February 17, 2012 at 9:33 pm

      I wish more people would own their relationship status like that. Life truly is about being thankful and embracing what you currently have and living in the moment. It’s one thing to control a career or education. But impossible to control other people and whether or not they “like” you. Being able to love yourself first is most important. Rock on.



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