Honestly, can we be real here for a second, without anyone getting offended and whiney and defensive, and instead taking this constructively?
if you already know you are having a conversation on this website with the person you are intending to write to anyway… WHY are you still writing it on here?
Talk in person… the anonymity of your letters no longer exists anyway, and to be quite frank, i’m tired of reading your same old bullshit over and over… and it seems like you post 10’s or 100’s of other letters saying the SAME EXACT THINGS all in a row, but changed to a poem or song or from a letter to a thought of all lengths and depths, and a few words changed around here and there thanks to your handy dandy thesaurus, so you sound creative and smart and cool.
If you’re unsure it’s actually the person, then i completely understand…
but to those of you who have outright said you KNOW that its the person, and you STILL hold the conversation with them via LINS… how do you expect to get anywhere in any sort of relationship (or lack there of) if you can’t even stop writing on an anonymous website, even though your identity is KNOWN, to look into that person’s eyes for even just one second and see how they really feel? And, if its that hard to use your vocal chords, try facebook or text messages or email or even snail mail! Get a fucking carrier pigeon for all I care… these ways, you don’t have to look them in the face, and you can still say all the same things without having to see their actual reaction, because like i said already.. they know who you are anyway.
Now, obviously, this is just MY opinion and I’m NOT claiming to speak for anyone else on this website other than MYSELF, but I do know I have a right to say what I feel, whether its anonymous or not. Also, I don’t feel that it means leave the site entirely, but post about the things you would say to people who don’t actually know its for them… you know… like the site is intended for…?
communication is key in any relationship, and the rapid decline of interpersonal communication… face to face… one on one… eye to eye…. its disgusting and sad. who’s going to be there for you when you’re sick or hurt? probably not the person on the other end of your phone or computer who for some reason can’t just talk to you in the same location that you are (and even some times are just across the room but still have to text)… it probably, in many cases, WILL be the people who you see day to day and dont even realize you take for granted because you “know” they’ll “always” be there… but still, you have to keep track of your digital friends just to make sure they’re still there and paying you attention and clicking buttons to inform you that they approve of your opinions, thoughts, jokes, etc, and the way you look or what you do in your photos. you forget about the real life, physically present, human beings standing right next to you. Be careful, because you probably don’t know how easily they can drop you when they get tired of being put on the back burner for some 59 year old perv out in bumfuck, america who is presenting themselves as that super sexy guy/girl just around your age, from (insert exciting location or somewhere near to your own location) who “happens to” like all the same things you and you just can’t understand why they’d ever be online instead of out with people in the first place. its because more often than not, they are out with people, and not online, and you’re talking to a picture of a hot 19 year old blond with the voice of a mid-aged man, smoking for 3/4 his life.
at least here, you’ve got part of an ounce of privacy, but good luck anywhere else.
learn to use that birth right that you hold in your mouth – your tongue – you’d be surprised how much more effective it can be than the hand/wrist/eye problems you’ll be getting in your later years, if not already.
and for those of you who get upset because I touched a little too close to home…
before you start writing all these hater comments with fire shooting out of your asshole and smoke out your ears… realize its not me you’re pissed at for saying these things. it’s you that you’re pissed at for acting on something that, when put into honest words, sounds like something you’d rather not be doing. if you didn’t think it actually sounded bad, you wouldn’t be upset, and likewise for those of you who this doesn’t apply to… unless you’re just one of those people who cares way to much about what others think (to the point of caring what even a complete stranger from any part of the globe who you will 99.9999% NEVER come to know thinks)