• I often wonder…

    by  • February 9, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, To You • 3 Comments

    If a girl and a guy can truly be best friends.

    If a close friendship is the building blocks to a healthy relationship, why are there still people who never end up with each other?

    The way I see it, it’s perfect. Here you have someone who you want in your life, you tell your most intimate secrets to, you’re comfortable around. You trust them, you love spending time with them, you go to them with good or bad news before anyone else. You can talk for hours, you joke around with, you make each other smile. The list goes on and on.

    If you’re not attracted to your best friend…why is that? Look past those reasons, and realise they understand you best. You’ve got the best right in front of you. Don’t be so blind.

    I sincerely used to believe that very close friendship between the opposite sex could stay platonic. But as I’ve grown older, I’ve seen this proved wrong many times. There are the fairytale stories where best friends confess their feelings and end up together. And then there are also stories where one person remains with a case of unrequited love and an unbalanced friendship.

    And then there are the times when both feel for each other, but neither make a move, and nothing ever comes of it. Who knows what they missed out on?

    So to those who have a close friendship to someone of the opposite sex, look at them in a different way. If there’s sexual tension, there’s something there. Ladies and gentlemen, I challenge you to strike up the courage to make a significant move. It’s complicated because you make it complicated. Tell them, hold them, kiss them. Make it simple.

    Fall in love with your best friend.
    Now is your moment.
    Go.

    3 Responses to I often wonder…

    1. v
      February 9, 2012 at 10:40 pm

      You just took everything that I’ve been thinking for the past few months directly out of my head. I just wish I didn’t have to be the one to make the first move.

    2. L
      February 10, 2012 at 3:55 am

      Sometimes it’s harder than that. I had a best guy friend, and there was sexual tension, and nothing ever came from it. We were “long distance” friends too, so maybe that’s why. Plus–what about people who are married but friends with the opposite sex? It certainly is possible for girl/guy platonic relationships in those cases.

    3. lb
      February 10, 2012 at 2:37 pm

      im not sure how i feel about this. i once met a guy who quickly became one of my best friends. we were together ALL the time for about 6 months. he was amazing, and i cared about him very very much. he had feelings for me, which i wasnt sure if i had the same for him. there was some sexual tension… so i decided to go for it. we ended up dating for about 3 months, and it crashed and burned. i soon realized i loved him as a friend, when he loved me as a girlfriend. i ended things, and we haven’t spoken since that day. he was really hurt and embarrassed by the whole thing, and i ended up losing a best friend.
      i kick myself evey single day for destroying that friendship. id do anything to get it back.

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