• Dear all EXs, past lovers, infatuations and whatever else out there,

    by  • February 3, 2012 • * Safe for Work *, Advice • 2 Comments

    You are known as the “EXs” or people in the past for a reason, because you don’t belong in their future, because you guys were not meant to happen. No matter what you believe or what you were told. If you’ve broken up and they’ve moved on…they aren’t coming back. So don’t hold your breathe. Honestly the only thing you’re doing is making yourself look desperate and no one likes looking desperate. Be confident in who you are and what you stand for and know that there is someone out there for you. Although at this point you might be hoping it’s the person that has left you and you can’t seem to get over…but there is a 1 in 100,000th of a chance that it is.

    If they are happy with someone else, let them be and be happy for them. Don’t try to meddle into their relationship and piss off they person that they are dating. Even if you think it sounds like a good idea at the time, I guarantee everyone else will not. People would respect you and treat so much better if they saw that you were mature about the break up, and just let that person do what they needed to do to be happy and really isn’t that all that matters? Is that everyone is happy? Granted I’m sure it doesn’t seem like you’ll be happy for a while, or you’re only be happy with them…but you’ll get past that and move on and before you know it, you wont even understand why you were so hung up on them in the first place.

    All this is a little harsh and straight forward but I think it needed to be addressed and said. People just need to let other people be happy, even if they don’t think that’s the person they should be happy with. Let everything work it’s self out on it’s own. Stop pushing things, stop ruining things, stop trying to fix things. Just go with the flow. Life is easier that way.


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    2 Responses to Dear all EXs, past lovers, infatuations and whatever else out there,

    1. T
      February 3, 2012 at 7:38 am

      Thanks for this. Sometimes I need a reminder that I should just let her go and be happy. It’s just hard because one part of me is wanting her to be happy, but then another part of me wants to fight for her. Like maybe, just maybe if I show how much I really care for her she would change her mind. I dont want to look back 10 years from now and think, wow if I would have just tried a little harder.


    2. K
      February 3, 2012 at 12:13 pm

      You’re welcome! I did that just for this reason, because I too was just going through something like this and it’s always nice to have a reminder and see that other people are having the same issue. You should let her be happy, and if somewhere down the road in ten years you think you should still be with her, maybe fate will take over. Best of luck to you! I hope you find happiness.



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